The only question in life is are you in control or are you always being controlled? if you are being controlled then it means you're playing like a victim, you're always blaming others and you're always reacting. People can make you feel negatively easily, you're always thinking of what people might say and they can easily take your confidence away. They can influence you easily, they scare you easily and you have not personal philosophy at all. They can manipulate your decisions, they can waste your time anytime they want to, they can make you react negatively without making too much effort, they can make you angry without doing too much. If they can make you say yes easily without you having to think of it, they are controlling you.
LEARN TO SAY NO AND SET BOUNDARIES
If you say no mean it, learn to confront people, learn to confront your fears. Learn to embrace the discomfort. Say no to social media, say no to everything that is making you weak, say no to laziness and procrastination, say no to instant gratification, say no to everything that is wasting your time. You have to be mindful here, being conscious means being in control. Stop pleasing people too because you are not controlling here, you are being controlled of wanting to be accepted and you have no power over it that's why you get disappointed if something doesn't love you back. Say no to comfort because it's making you soft. Learn to pick the right enemies, choose your enemies, never choose a challenge that will never make you better. When you say no mean it, don't change your mind, don't back down to any threats. Make a stand and set your personal boundary. Because every time you say yes your mentality gets weaker and weaker especially if you really don't like it. Say no and never care about how they feel, just do it and never feel guilty because it's your life, you can make decisions on your own.
YOU ARE IN CONTROL IF...
You can make decisions on your own, you don't care about what people say, you do it your way and you make a stand, you are not afraid to lose, you are not afraid to get nothing, you are not afraid to fail. You will feel free if you don't care about money, fame, success, products, food etc. You are in control if you focus on yourself and you can detach from anything.
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