Are you always conscious or cautious of what other people think of you? are you having a hard time expressing yourself because you think that they might not like your actions? if your answer to this question is yes the probably you have a sad life, your confidence is low but don't worry because just a few adjustments will make your life great again.
1. Keep in mind that they don't care
They don't care, they really don't. Who are you to get insecure? who are you to stop yourself from expressing? you are nothing, they don't even know your name, they don't even know what you do so why get insecure of what they think? If you embarrassed yourself today with your silly and awkward actions and they laugh so hard and you feel like shrinking because your ego was badly hurt, don't worry because they will forget it tomorrow. Especially if the people who witness the event doesn't know you. And even if you know the people who witnessed the event... so what? People don't even care about you so don't be afraid to speak up or do what you want, they don't care if you're right or wrong. You're the only one who's creating an illusion that all of your actions were being guarded or criticized.
2. They will forget what happened so don't be afraid to try.
They will forget that you lose, they will forget that you come up short, they will forget that you looked like a fool on that moment. An event that is not worth remembering will not be remembered, people will never treasure a mediocre memory. So don't be afraid to try and express yourself because you have nothing to lose here. Losers will never be remembered. So if you're losing now, if you're struggling or in a rut... enjoy it, don't be afraid to try and win because they are not counting how many times you lost. Try again because you only need to win once, and once you win... they will forget every embarrassing moments about you.
3. Focus on the most important things in your life.
Focus on your goals, focus on your family, focus on the people that loves you back. If you know what really matters in your life then you will never give attention to things or people that doesn't resonate with your purpose. You will allow them to laugh or criticize you but it will never even make an impact to your emotion. So what if you got embarrassed in front of a lot of people, you don't know them, they're not important in your life so forget about looking stupid, there is nothing to be ashamed of.
4. Embarrass yourself all the time.
If you fail again and again, if you got rejected by a girl again and again, if you feel anxious again and again but you fight it... you will no longer be afraid of what people say. It's because your mind was hardened by ugly circumstances. You already felt the pain a lot of times, you know how it feels and you were able to discover that it is nothing, it doesn't lessen your manhood, it doesn't even hurt you in real life, you're the only who one who's giving it a bigger meaning. Your interpretation about what happened is what's hurting you.
5. Remember that you're just a human being.
You're just a human, you are allowed to fail, you are allowed to look ignorant or weak. Being weak, inadequate, ugly or looking like a loser is forgivable. You are not perfect so don't try to be one. You're just a human being and your flaws or weakness is part of who you really are. All humans make mistakes, even the most intelligent and modest person makes mistakes, you're just a human being, you're allowed to look like a fool and stupid. And when most people criticize or laugh at you... just ignore it, it will soon pass, don't give it any attention, don't let it bother you. It's their problem if they can't forget what happened, they're just wasting their time and that is already your revenge. While they are wasting their time thinking of you, you are moving forward and living your life with no regrets at all.
6. JUST BE YOURSELF
If you're ugly so be it, if you're not smart so be it. But don't ever stop yourself from asking for what you want. You are allowed to ask, don't be afraid of what people might say that you don't deserve what you're asking for. Remember, you're just trying, there is no harm in trying, it's ok to ask for more than what you deserve. And you really don't know what you deserve, sometimes the word "deserving" is only coming from the judgement of people. If you can get it, if you get lucky having it then you deserve it. Be yourself, show your true colors, and even if some people won't like you... so be it, you are not here to impress them, you are not here to please all people. You are here to enjoy life and feel free all the time, and you can only achieve freedom if you stop thinking about what other people say.
7. Always remember that there is always tomorrow.
There is always a tomorrow so don't be afraid to fail now, don't be afraid to look stupid now. Tomorrow you can try again, tomorrow might be your day. Don't be afraid to lose, get humiliated, get rejected because tomorrow is another day where you can win. You have unlimited number of tries and that is your biggest leverage. If you got rejected by a girl now, try again tomorrow, look for another potential victim. If you got laugh at today because of making a mistake and it makes you feel so bad, don't worry because there is a tomorrow. Good things may come to your life tomorrow so forget about what happened today and just move on.
8. Stop thinking that you're so special.
You're not a star, they don't even know your name, you're nothing, you don't even have a followers on you tube so who are you to think that you don't have the right to make mistakes. And even if you're a little bit popular... forget you name, your name is nothing, forget about your reputation, you will never be able to move and express yourself honestly if you're always taking care of your name. If you can just stay humble and forget your identity then you will be able to express yourself to the fullest. Stop thinking that you deserve a special treatment, you're just a human being, don't think that you're so special because that's stopping you from taking actions and risks.
9. Don't focus on perfection, focus on execution.
It's not that you will act like a fool or clown and just do stupid things, it's not that you're going to mess up everything and just show up. Of course you still need to give your best but don't ever look for perfection, give your best but be ok with making mistakes. People who focus on making it perfect never achieved anything, it's because they can't start. They were to focused on what people are going to say instead of focusing on giving their best.
WHAT IF I GOT INSECURE AGAIN?
Very simple, in your mind... think that everything is nothing. Because it really is, nobody owns something forever. Everybody will die, everyone will never take with him his millions. So why get insecure of someone who is not invincible at all. If you got insecure with someone, always think that he is just another person who is decaying one day at a time, because he really is. No matter how rich you are, you're dying one day at a time, no matter how rich you are... you will never escape death. So why get insecure with someone who is not even a God? Treat everyone with respect but never treat everyone as someone who is higher or lower than you, always think that they're just another human being with no special powers. So never mind what they think because it doesn't matter at all.
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