When you're new in town you don't know the people, you don't know the rules and their culture. You're shy, you're conservative, you're uncomfortable. Sometimes you will get overwhelmed because there are people who have strong personality and you feel you can't get along with them, but that's ok, that is part of your adaptation process... you will get stunned, you will get lost and overwhelmed. You will get bullied, you feel unprotected, sometimes you already wanted to quit.
Don't worry because no matter how complicated the situation looks... it is not that complicated, it's still simple if you will forge a right mindset. The secret to adapting to a new environment is mental toughness, it's not how strong you are physically but mentally. All you have to do is live every single day and you will be able to adapt. You're stronger than what you think of yourself, has it ever happen to you when you think you can't do something but you were able to pass through it? you think the challenge is difficult but you will be surprised that it's not that hard if you give your very best and push yourself to the limits. You think you've already lost but you were able to make a comeback because of your tenacity. Sometimes you think that the challenge in front of you is too hard because you're not even trying, but if you give it a try then you will learn that you can do it if you will stay patient and committed. You can adapt to any place or situation even if there is no one to help you there. All you have to do is live and that's it, just work and keep moving forward and slowly you will become comfortable on an unfamiliar territory. It's only scary in the beginning but once you decide to not quit and just be aware of what's going on then your courage will start to build in. Don't be scared of unfamiliar territory, you can study what is going on, just keep quiet and be observant, know the rules, remember your strengths and never let anything stop you.
HOW TO ADAPT?
Be observant, know what you can do at the moment but never get complacent. Remind yourself that you can survive the situation and dominate later. All you need to do for now is survive, learn something, be mindful of what is going on. You can survive anything if you have the mentality to not quit.
If you're just a new student in a university and you came form province, of course you don't know what to do, you look stupid and ignorant but months will pass and you will be able to play with the rich kids, you can deal with them, you can adapt to their attitude, sometimes you're even the one who's bullying them. I have a friend in college, he just came from province and nobody knows them, he was even bullied before, some students were making fun of him and getting is money but 2 years have passed and he's already the leader of a scary gang, he even burn the car of a student who's bullying him before. I asked him how did you do that? his answer is... I just learned how to survive and thrive, he is now one of the scariest gang leaders in town.
LET YOUR FEAR SCARE YOU
Don't run away from your fears... deal with it, face it and feel it. Let it scare you but don't ever quit or stop yourself from doing what you need to do. Let your fear scare you everyday, sooner or later that fear no longer exist. There will always be fear, but all fears can be tamed, all you need to do is feel it. Stop panicking, stop freaking out, stop making stupid decisions... stay still and let your fear scare you. It will go away once you feel it over and over again. Just like a bully... if he keeps on bullying you everyday and you're not resistant of his bullying... he will no longer scare you, you will be the one to bully him in the end.
Some people were not scared at all but they think they were scared, and their fears don't go away because they're not feeling it, they're always resisting their fears that's why it becomes a trauma, if you want to become fearless then you should be ok feeling your fears and admitting to yourself that you're scared.
Remember that your fears are nothing but feelings, it is just an emotion, it can never kill you, it can only manipulate your mind. The goal of fear is to make you quit and do stupid things. So if you can promise to yourself that you will never quit no matter what then you will win.
HOW TO DOMINATE?
Adapt first, know what you can do and know what you can't do. Define your fears and make a plan on what are you going to do once you feel those fears. To be able to dominate a situation means you can move anytime and make good decisions anytime. But if you're scared then you will not be able to dominate, you will pick the baddest option, your mind will go blank and you will just go with the flow. But it's impossible to become fearless, it's impossible that you will not become scared, and that is why just like what I said before... you need to understand your fears and learn how to tame them so whenever you feel it... you will not be stunned, you will still be able to move and do the right things. Once you know your fears and you have a game plan once you feel them then you will be able to dominate any place or situation, because a dominant person is someone who can move despite of fears, he is someone who can manage to stay relax despite of being scared.
Don't worry because no matter how complicated the situation looks... it is not that complicated, it's still simple if you will forge a right mindset. The secret to adapting to a new environment is mental toughness, it's not how strong you are physically but mentally. All you have to do is live every single day and you will be able to adapt. You're stronger than what you think of yourself, has it ever happen to you when you think you can't do something but you were able to pass through it? you think the challenge is difficult but you will be surprised that it's not that hard if you give your very best and push yourself to the limits. You think you've already lost but you were able to make a comeback because of your tenacity. Sometimes you think that the challenge in front of you is too hard because you're not even trying, but if you give it a try then you will learn that you can do it if you will stay patient and committed. You can adapt to any place or situation even if there is no one to help you there. All you have to do is live and that's it, just work and keep moving forward and slowly you will become comfortable on an unfamiliar territory. It's only scary in the beginning but once you decide to not quit and just be aware of what's going on then your courage will start to build in. Don't be scared of unfamiliar territory, you can study what is going on, just keep quiet and be observant, know the rules, remember your strengths and never let anything stop you.
HOW TO ADAPT?
Be observant, know what you can do at the moment but never get complacent. Remind yourself that you can survive the situation and dominate later. All you need to do for now is survive, learn something, be mindful of what is going on. You can survive anything if you have the mentality to not quit.
If you're just a new student in a university and you came form province, of course you don't know what to do, you look stupid and ignorant but months will pass and you will be able to play with the rich kids, you can deal with them, you can adapt to their attitude, sometimes you're even the one who's bullying them. I have a friend in college, he just came from province and nobody knows them, he was even bullied before, some students were making fun of him and getting is money but 2 years have passed and he's already the leader of a scary gang, he even burn the car of a student who's bullying him before. I asked him how did you do that? his answer is... I just learned how to survive and thrive, he is now one of the scariest gang leaders in town.
LET YOUR FEAR SCARE YOU
Don't run away from your fears... deal with it, face it and feel it. Let it scare you but don't ever quit or stop yourself from doing what you need to do. Let your fear scare you everyday, sooner or later that fear no longer exist. There will always be fear, but all fears can be tamed, all you need to do is feel it. Stop panicking, stop freaking out, stop making stupid decisions... stay still and let your fear scare you. It will go away once you feel it over and over again. Just like a bully... if he keeps on bullying you everyday and you're not resistant of his bullying... he will no longer scare you, you will be the one to bully him in the end.
Some people were not scared at all but they think they were scared, and their fears don't go away because they're not feeling it, they're always resisting their fears that's why it becomes a trauma, if you want to become fearless then you should be ok feeling your fears and admitting to yourself that you're scared.
Remember that your fears are nothing but feelings, it is just an emotion, it can never kill you, it can only manipulate your mind. The goal of fear is to make you quit and do stupid things. So if you can promise to yourself that you will never quit no matter what then you will win.
HOW TO DOMINATE?
Adapt first, know what you can do and know what you can't do. Define your fears and make a plan on what are you going to do once you feel those fears. To be able to dominate a situation means you can move anytime and make good decisions anytime. But if you're scared then you will not be able to dominate, you will pick the baddest option, your mind will go blank and you will just go with the flow. But it's impossible to become fearless, it's impossible that you will not become scared, and that is why just like what I said before... you need to understand your fears and learn how to tame them so whenever you feel it... you will not be stunned, you will still be able to move and do the right things. Once you know your fears and you have a game plan once you feel them then you will be able to dominate any place or situation, because a dominant person is someone who can move despite of fears, he is someone who can manage to stay relax despite of being scared.
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