What if you're not confident about yourself? what if you have a lot of insecurities about yourself? what if you keep doubting yourself? what if you don't have the necessary skills or means to win in life? The good news is... you can still win if you don't have confidence, the only thing you must have is this kind of mindset? It's a mindset of not being afraid to fail, or willing to fail no matter what. It means you're willing to try on any given single day despite of not being confident enough. It's a crazy dog technique, you're willing to just jump in and do whatever it takes despite of your insecurities and doubt about yourself. You don't need to become confident at all, you just need to show up and embrace everything, be willing to adapt, be willing to feel uncomfortable and insecure.
THE MINDSET OF NOT GIVING UP
Just like when you're courting a girl, you're not confident because you don't have the looks or you're not rich. You're not confident because you think she doesn't like you. But sometimes part of your brain is telling you to just try. That's what you need to just try, chase her, hunt her, make her feel that you're willing to go the extra mile just to be with her. Let her use you, let here be your queen, don't worry because once you made her fall in love, you can collect your return of investment and do whatever you want with her. Be patient, don't give up and just persevere, wear your thickest skin. Some women appreciates effort alone. If you can be with her the moment she needs someone then you have a big chance of making her fall in love. Just show up everyday, don't be too pushy but make her feel that you're always present with her and you're willing to step up whenever she needs you.
Just don't give up and you already won. If you have this kind of mindset then you're going to win in just a matter of time, you just need to wait and victory will be yours. Because it's impossible to not win if you try a million times, you can never lose forever, time will come and fate will favor you.
IT'S OK IF YOU'RE SCARED
So what if you're scared, so what if you're not confident enough. It's normal, you will become confident later as you feel every moment and do whatever it takes to get what you want. Confidence is build through actions and not overthinking. Just show up and throw yourself out on the mix. Embrace the possibility that you might fail or get rejected. It's ok, at least you erase the questions in your head about what could happen if you only try. It's harder to have regrets than to face failure. Giving yourself a chance to fail is also giving yourself a chance to win. Face your fears, this is the only way to build confidence, it's uncomfortable in the beginning but once you get use to it... everything will be a lot easier. It's ok if you're scared, there's nothing wrong with it, it's ok if you look scared but be willing to step up and do something. Fight fire with fire, overpower your fears by moving forward and using your willpower to execute some actions. It's a commitment, it's a mindset... it's in your heart that you will move despite of feeling shaky and scared. Don't let the situation control you, go back to yourself and follow your mindset from the very beginning. Remind yourself that fear is a signal to do something. Don't just let the opportunity go away without doing something.
The truth is everyone was scared but the difference is the winners in life are always willing to take actions even if they were scared to death, they knew that they only have one life so they need to devour every opportunity presented to them.
GIVE YOUUSELF A CHANCE TO WIN
You can only give yourself a chance to win if you are willing to fail over and over again. Be willing to eat some mud, be willing to get your heart broken. It is what it is, you will only fail after failing a lot of times, you have to accept that it's the reality. You owe it to yourself, living will only be experienced once, why not live your life to the fullest and truly chase what you want. Make yourself a king, become a winner and do it your way. Never follow the norms, all they do is confuse you and avoid you from being yourself. Decide that you're going to try whenever you have a chance to. Have no regrets when you take a chance, don't ever feel bad even if you fail because that is what life is all about... trying even if you don't know how to win, giving yourself a chance even if you're scared and doesn't know what's going to happen next.
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