The thing is this, the only things that you can control is your actions, mind, thoughts, reactions, decisions, body and effort. Outside of it is not in your control anymore, no matter how much you try to control everything... something will still be out of control. Even the president can't control everything, even the man with the most money can never control everything, even Jeff Bezos is having a hard time controlling his employees, even Warren Buffet is having troubles controlling the stock market. It is what it is, if you don't want to lose your sanity then try to stop controlling everything. Let it go, if you really work hard enough to make everything better then just let it go, let things happen by itself.
GO INSIDE OF YOU TO BECOME MORE POWERFUL
Look at your mind, mind your feelings, mind your thoughts, you have to be aware of what's going on with your system. Ask yourself "is worrying about the things you I can't control worth it", is it helping you, is it making you feel better, is it giving you something? worrying will never get the job done, it can never make your position better, you have to trust, you have to let go and focus on yourself. Draw the sate from within, you can control your emotions if you will attached a different meaning to a subject that is irritating you. If your co worker is not treating you well just think that he is in big trouble, think that he is not having a good life if he keeps doing that, don't ever think that you should be treated with respect all the time because it will never happen, focus on how you feel, ignore that bitch and keep living your life. If you need to strike back then do it but don't let yourself over think about that human being because it's not even worth it, you're just wasting your time and energy feeling so bad and thinking about making a revenge. You can stop the pain now, it's either you strike back so that he will feel that you're not liking what he's doing or you totally ignore him even if he is talking nice to you. Just ignore him, that clown will stop, a clown will stop dancing if you don't give him any attention. It's too easy, don't let the suffering go on for so long, you can decide now. If you decide to ignore him then that's it, ignore him for the rest of your life, don't give him any attention, don't give him any energy, never feel anything about him, always think that it's just business. If you're planning to strike back then do it now, I am not recommending this to you but if you really want to make a revenge then just do it. Talk to him and say you don't love what he's doing and threaten him that if he keep doing the same thing then you will never hesitate to hit him. The point here is.... you can never control him so don't be threaten if he will disrespect you in the future again, just end the suffering, end the overthinking by making a decision. Offer him what will happen, threaten him too.
THE DOGS ARE BARKING SO LOUD AND YOU CAN'T SLEEP
You can never control the dogs of your neighbor, all you can do is manage your temper, because the more you focus on what you can't control the aggravation will become stronger. You need to let go and focus on the things that you can control which is your thoughts. You can throw rocks to those dogs but they will still bark, you can talk to the owner but they will do nothing, they will even get offended, all you can do is quiet your mind and embrace the noise, if you can have peace with war then you will never suffer anymore. It's about training your mind, it's difficult but it's the path of least resistance, always remember that you can't control anything that you have no power over with. You can only shut the dogs if it's yours or of the owner of it is under your power but if not then you better shut your mouth, stop being a victim and live your life. Focus your attention to some other things, you can control the noise by either soundproofing your room or putting a headset on your ears, there are some things you can do to eliminate the noise, do it or endure the noise.
PEOPLE WILL SAY WHATEVER THEY WANT TO
Don't be afraid to make a reckless or not so popular decision. Let people say what they want to, if you feel that what you are about to do is good for you then do it, as simple as that. People will say what they want to and you can never shut their mouths, even if you're winning... they will still say something that you may not like. It is what it is, this is the world we live in, this is how life goes. Don't be threatened with their words, words can never wound you, it can never inflict a physical or mental pain if you will choose to bulletproof your mind and never give importance to their opinion. Make their words nothing, make their opinions weak by ignoring all of it and focusing on the things that you can control. Their words will be meaningless if you will not think about it, it's powerless if it can't affect you. Let them speak, let them criticize you, let them do whatever they want, you have the power to ignore all of the noise surrounding you, you will look invincible if you will choose to stay calm and collected. Everything is nothing if you will not give any meaning, anything have no power over you if you will choose to focus on your own power, focus on what you can do and not on what you can complain about, focus on taking actions instead of overthinking and hating things that you can't eliminate right away. The power is in your hands, use your power, never let anything control you. What angers you controls you, you have to be mindful if you're getting to much affected with little things that are outside of your control.
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