Parents were the human beings that love you the most, they will give you everything, they will support you and guide you, they will nurture you, they will even give their lives for you. Bu what you do not know is that you are copying their behaviors and decisions, you are almost duplicating their lives and following their routines, beliefs and dreams.
Most parents didn't want their children to fail big time, they don't want their children to get hurt but id the end their children were hurt even more because they cannot express themselves and follow their own ambitions.
Some parents will even blame their child if he fails and will tell the poor child "I told you, I was right and you were wrong". This is a sad story, the poor child will lose confidence to follow his dreams and follow his own belief, he will no longer dare to fly and do it his way.
Your parents were afraid that you might get hurt, they want you to have a perfect record, they don't want you to get dirty, all they want is for you to have a perfect life which will never happen no matter how hard they try to control the situation.
Your mom and dad were too realistic, life is not all about being realistic, life is all about chasing the impossible and breaking your limitations. Sometimes your parents are limiting you, they feel they know your capbilities
THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON THAT THEY THOUGHT YOU
The most important thing that you must do is to observe them. Look at them, they were playing safe, they were stopping you to dream big, it's not that they don't want you to become successful but they want you to become successful according to their plans. They want you to become realistic, they don't want you to follow your passion and get hurt. Only few parents will support his child to become an olympian or an MMA fighter or a car racing driver, only few parents will support his child to become a writer or an entrepreneur. Most parents would love their children to become doctors, accountants, engineers or anything that has a degree.
Your parents love you but they were thinking inside of the box. They don't want you to become a scientist or an inventor or a rockstar. It's ok to become a professional like doctor or lawyer, etc if you really want it but if you're just doing it to please your parents then you will never become happy, if you are doing something for the sake of having a lot of money and following the norm then you will become depressed in the end because you didn't follow your passion.
All your parents thought you is to become realistic, they want you to play safe, they want you to follow their dreams for you. They are not even letting you choose the color of shoes that you want, they always know what is best for you but sometimes you didn't like it.
NOW THAT YOU'VE FINALLY GROWN UP
If you can already earn your own money, if you can already feed yourself and not become dependent of them then it's time to spread your wings. It's not that you're disrespecting them and disobeying them, you're just following your dreams because you are here to test yourself and see all the possibilities if you follow your own intuition.
They had their time, they already live for a long time, they already followed their dreams and ambitions, now is your time to follow yours. Because you are not here to follow another person's dream for you. You have your own dream, it's the one you love and it's your obligation to chase that dream or else you will have a lot of regrets in the end. It's your turn to make decisions now, stop abiding with their rules, listen to your heart and go all out. No matter what happens... avoid regrets, even if you fail... you should stand up and try again, you should be fast in moving on and forgetting the past. It's your call, it's your life, you can do whatever you want to do with it.
STOP COPYING YOUR PARENTS
Everything they say for you is good, everything they teach you is good but sometimes all they want is for you to follow them, you are not following your heart anymore. They were playing safe, they don't want to get hurt, they were realistic. And being realistic means you're not stretching yourself, you are not testing the possibilities, you are not trying to do the impossible. They don't want you to take risk, it's ok if you are ok with that, but what if you are seeing other things? what if you feel that you can do more and be something else other than what they want for you? what if you can really do it? what if you are destined for something else?
Your parents were too traditional, they don't want you to make mistakes. How can you grow without feeling the pain, struggle and failure? how can you grow if you will not try a lot of things? the want the sure path but that is not the path for growth, the path for growth is a path full of danger, fear and pain.
Stay away from your comfort zone, trust the unknown, trust that you can do something great by being yourself and following your heart. It's ok to fail, it's ok to get hurt, it's part of the design. You know what is really dangerous or not, if you're not going to die by taking the risk that you want then go for it. Even if you fail big time and your parents makes you feel guilty... try again, you know what to do, you are going to be alright if you follow your heart an natural ambition.
Life is yours live it your way. Don't just live your life following the orders of others, it's ok to follow your parents, you need to respect them but the point here is if you can already carry yourself then it's time to man up, stand up with your own legs and do what you need to do.
TAKE RISKS, TAKE THE CHANCE
It's all about giving yourself a chance to succeed by going further and ignoring what people say. Do what you feel, follow what your heart is telling you. Take it one step at a time, it's ok if you are slow, what matters is you take the first step and you allow yourself to become successful, give yourself a chance, do the impossible, do what is hard and never go back. It's all about how many times you take chances, this is law of the averages game. The more you try the more you give yourself a big chance to become successful. Try again if you fail, don't get tired of trying again and again... that's how to win this game of life. It's not about your skill, it's not about the support system that you have... it's about how bad do you want it, are you willing to fail again and again just to succeed? are you willing to focus and give your full faith for your dream? this is an all or nothing game, so what if you fail? even the greatest ones fail, even Michael Jordan misses a lot of shots, even Tiger Woods was humiliated by an opponent, even Obama was rejected at one point in his life .If you will never dare to become brave then you will just follow the orders of your parents which is sometimes you don't like.
Don't get me wrong, still respect your parents, still follow them but if it is about your dreams and you want something else... you better follow our heart because it is the rightest thing to do.
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