You look a person without confidence because you're always rattled, you're panicking and you wanted to escape the situation so fast. To look confident you must stay calm, stay cold blooded and have that posture of nothing to lose. You can fake confidence until it becomes real. If you're confused, if you can't find a way, if everything else is falling apart and it seems like you don't know what to do... just stay calm. Staying calm means security, it means everything is alright and you're always ready for what is about to happen. Stay calm, don't talk or move if you need to, put your mind on a neutral state. Just shut your mouth and feel, shut your brain and chill. You don't need to impress people, you don't need to feel comfortable right away, you don't even need to protect yourself, just be in the moment and think slowly when you already calm yourself. Breathe, feel everything around you, be aware of what is going on. When it's time to talk then talk but talk slowly and with confidence, never try to please others, never try to agree just because you don't want to get hurt, express yourself slowly and surely, enjoy the pressure, enjoy everything you feel.
CALMNESS MEANS INVINCIBILITY
If you are calm you are attractive, if you are calm people will follow you. Nobody wants a leader that is freaking out and losing his mind all the time. Relax, it's just pressure, learn to let go, learn to accept what may happen next. Staying calm is power, it is allowing your mind to think clearly, it's letting your body breathe and recover, you will have more strength if you are calm. It means you're in a state of abundance and you feel that nothing can touch you, you feel in control and you're ready for anything that may happen, you don't resist, you just allow and take over. Champions, greatest politicians, business moguls... they stay calm under pressure, they love adversity because they know it's a great opportunity to claim victory. Because if you're always panicking and rushing it means you don't love what's going on but if you're calm and tranquil it means you don' back down to anything, you are aware that it's uncomfortable but you still believe that you're going to thrive in the end.
So if you don't feel confident for now... just stay calm, never rush nor freak out, breathe and relax and move little by little, there's no need to be afraid, you can weather any kind of storm, all you have to do is never quit and just keep moving forward all the time.
YOU CAN SHINE THROUGH CALMNESS
Some people were not even doing anything but other people were intimidated at them. Some people were not talking but other people were talking about them. Some people choose to stay still and most people believe in them. Calmness will make you shine, it's like you're ok not being ok, you're ok even if you're not getting any attention, you're ok during times of adversity. People will get impressed with you if you're too calm. Calmness means confidence, because if you're not reacting and not worrying it means you believe in yourself, sometimes you're doubting a little bit but you're not afraid to lose, you're displaying a body language of a person whose certainty is unmatchable. You just knew that you're going to win in the end, you don't even care if you lose, you're not afraid to lose and at the same time you're not afraid to try. You believe that stillness is power and that there are lot of things that you can achieve by being calm alone.
Stay calm if you're being threatened, stay calm if you're losing, show them that you really don't care and that you're willing to accept whatever may happen. If they know that you don't care at all then they will respect you, it's because they will feel that you have nothing to lose and that you're free to do anything you want.
Q: WHAT IF I AM ALWAYS PANICKING ON SITUATIONS THAT I AM NOT COMFORTABLE?
A: It's another opportunity to grow. You should be aware that you're panicking, if you can see yourself rushing and trying to escape... it's a good thing. Once you're aware of how you feel no matter how negative the feeling is... you can easily change or ignore the feeling. Just go with it, if you're panicking then try to accept that you already screwed up, once you let go, once you accept that you're looking like a fool and there is nothing you can do about it then congratulations! you're on your way to improvement. Don't be scared to destroy your identity, don't be scared to try, don't be scared to embarrass yourself, it's ok, people will not remember you and even if they mock you... just stay calm, ignore them, make them feel that you don't feel anything and they will suddenly stop. Deal with it, deal with your emotion, see it, feel it, have fun with it, laugh at it, you will discover that it's nothing right? you have nothing to lose here, you have everything to gain, why feel bad about something that is not even worth it. Comments from other people doesn't matter, the results doesn't matter, looking like a loser doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is how are you going to express yourself, how are you going to have fun with your life even if you're always feeling uncomfortable.
Confidence will start to build up if you are not rushing nor trying to escape the situation, just deal with it, embrace it, be one with the moment. Don't try so hard, never try to look good or impress people, just be yourself, if you look like a crap so be it, remember that it's not about how you look, it's about how you feel. If you can feel good during those uncomfortable moments then you are good.
CALMNESS MEANS INVINCIBILITY
If you are calm you are attractive, if you are calm people will follow you. Nobody wants a leader that is freaking out and losing his mind all the time. Relax, it's just pressure, learn to let go, learn to accept what may happen next. Staying calm is power, it is allowing your mind to think clearly, it's letting your body breathe and recover, you will have more strength if you are calm. It means you're in a state of abundance and you feel that nothing can touch you, you feel in control and you're ready for anything that may happen, you don't resist, you just allow and take over. Champions, greatest politicians, business moguls... they stay calm under pressure, they love adversity because they know it's a great opportunity to claim victory. Because if you're always panicking and rushing it means you don't love what's going on but if you're calm and tranquil it means you don' back down to anything, you are aware that it's uncomfortable but you still believe that you're going to thrive in the end.
So if you don't feel confident for now... just stay calm, never rush nor freak out, breathe and relax and move little by little, there's no need to be afraid, you can weather any kind of storm, all you have to do is never quit and just keep moving forward all the time.
YOU CAN SHINE THROUGH CALMNESS
Some people were not even doing anything but other people were intimidated at them. Some people were not talking but other people were talking about them. Some people choose to stay still and most people believe in them. Calmness will make you shine, it's like you're ok not being ok, you're ok even if you're not getting any attention, you're ok during times of adversity. People will get impressed with you if you're too calm. Calmness means confidence, because if you're not reacting and not worrying it means you believe in yourself, sometimes you're doubting a little bit but you're not afraid to lose, you're displaying a body language of a person whose certainty is unmatchable. You just knew that you're going to win in the end, you don't even care if you lose, you're not afraid to lose and at the same time you're not afraid to try. You believe that stillness is power and that there are lot of things that you can achieve by being calm alone.
Stay calm if you're being threatened, stay calm if you're losing, show them that you really don't care and that you're willing to accept whatever may happen. If they know that you don't care at all then they will respect you, it's because they will feel that you have nothing to lose and that you're free to do anything you want.
Q: WHAT IF I AM ALWAYS PANICKING ON SITUATIONS THAT I AM NOT COMFORTABLE?
A: It's another opportunity to grow. You should be aware that you're panicking, if you can see yourself rushing and trying to escape... it's a good thing. Once you're aware of how you feel no matter how negative the feeling is... you can easily change or ignore the feeling. Just go with it, if you're panicking then try to accept that you already screwed up, once you let go, once you accept that you're looking like a fool and there is nothing you can do about it then congratulations! you're on your way to improvement. Don't be scared to destroy your identity, don't be scared to try, don't be scared to embarrass yourself, it's ok, people will not remember you and even if they mock you... just stay calm, ignore them, make them feel that you don't feel anything and they will suddenly stop. Deal with it, deal with your emotion, see it, feel it, have fun with it, laugh at it, you will discover that it's nothing right? you have nothing to lose here, you have everything to gain, why feel bad about something that is not even worth it. Comments from other people doesn't matter, the results doesn't matter, looking like a loser doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is how are you going to express yourself, how are you going to have fun with your life even if you're always feeling uncomfortable.
Confidence will start to build up if you are not rushing nor trying to escape the situation, just deal with it, embrace it, be one with the moment. Don't try so hard, never try to look good or impress people, just be yourself, if you look like a crap so be it, remember that it's not about how you look, it's about how you feel. If you can feel good during those uncomfortable moments then you are good.
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