If you're trying to please and impress people then you're in big trouble. If you're copying the trends just to avoid looking old fashion but you really don't like it then you're lying to yourself. If you're trying to become better just to look you're better than them, if you're constantly competing and looking for validation then you will never win. You're only setting yourself up for misery. Just be yourself and stop minding what other people think, do what you need to do, wear what you need to wear and live your life in accordance with your rules. You will become invincible if you will not try to please people, at the end of the day they're nothing, you need to keep in mind that the best way to live your life is to follow your heart and not even caring what anyone does.
YOU'RE BECOMING MORE POWERFUL
If you are not caring about what people say then you will become powerful, if none of them matters then you will discover who you really are. Because you are getting very conservative because of being afraid of what people might say, you're worrying about the future too much. You care too much about what people say to the point where you already forgotten who you really are. Stop liking them, stop wanting to be like, stop looking for a sympathy and focus on your true values. If you can just stop being a pleaser then you will be able to express yourself more. At the end of the day they're not going to pay your bills so why worry about them. Just have fun with your life, have fun with what's going on.
NOT EXPRESSING YOURSELF IS ALSO PLEASING THEM
Not giving your best, being too shy, being scared to fail, being scared to get judge is also pleasing them. If you're not showing your true colors and potential it means you're thinking about them and not thinking about your own feelings. You will feel much better if you will give your all but because you're so afraid of their harsh judgments then you choose to dim your light and stay lowkey even if you don't want it. Even if something inside of you is itching to explode and be expressive... you still choose to please them. You don't want to offend the, you don't want to make them feel something, you're so scared of what they are going to say, you are scared of the critics, it only means you are pleasing them because you are prioritizing them more than you prioritize yourself.
STOP TRYING TO FIT IN
Don't but the latest gadgets just to impress your friends. Some people will buy the latest cellphone even if they are broke just to look rich and avoid being labeled as poor. You are not suppose to be like them, stop begging for their approval, if they don't like you so be it. So what if they can't accept you? so what if they don't feel you? be alone if you need to but don't ever try to fit in because you're losing your true values by doing that. You don't need people to like you at all. No matter what you do, if they really don't like you then they will never like you, you just need to accept that there's no point on being so nice all the time because you will become the target of abuse.
BE YOUR NUMBER ONE FAN
You're enough, what you have is enough, you don't need what is missing or lacking in your life. All you have is the present moment and it's up to you if you will enjoy it or not, it's up to you if you will feel good about yourself or not. It is your journey, you are allowed to do anything with your life. Stop wanting to be like, you need to like yourself, loving yourself is enough to thrive and become happy. If you're always trying to be nice to people so that they will like you then you're in big trouble because you will lose control of yourself, they will be the ones to control you. You can become anything you want if you will just focus on yourself, focus on getting better, you have to be selfish with your time. Stop giving time to anything that doesn't contribute to your growth, own your time and never give it to anybody.
BE READY TO LEAVE ANYTHING
If you're ready to leave anything, if you can detach yourself from anything whenever you need to then you will become invincible. Nothing or nobody can hurt you, it's because you're not valuing anything. To become expressive, free and creative you must detach yourself from everything. Never give anything value, just treat everyone as neutral and you will feel so powerful. Power is not what you can command, it's how you feel about yourself, it's being sure that you will be alright no matter what. Just like a wiseman once said "the real winner in a business deal is the one who can say no" If you are willing to leave anything then you will have more leverage, you will feel more powerful and they will also feel your power. Learn to say no, learn to reject somebody, stop chasing someone because if you do that then you're in big big trouble, you will be controlled forever.
YOUR WORLD WILL CHANGE WHEN YOU START TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
If you really believe in yourself then you don't need to fit in with the crowd, you don't need to try hard to look appealing to them, you will never try to convince them anymore. The more you believe in yourself the better you will become. If you believe in yourself then you will never care about what other people say anymore. If you really believe in yourself then you will push yourself to the limits and test your greatness. But you don't believe in yourself too much that's why you're too focused on what other people are doing, you don't believe in your work that's why you're always half committed. Go harder each day and never think that you have limits, always look for the next step, take fast actions and never look back. Never hesitate to do something good for your life, face the pressure because that will make you great.
DON'T ROOT FOR ANYONE
Don't support any sports team, politician, celebrity or anyone trying to do something great. It's not that you're hating them, just don't invest too much emotions on something that is not connected with your life. It's because you will have lesser time for yourself, you will only get disappointed if your expectations were not met, stop investing too much energy because you will get weaker by doing that. Are you going to let a defeat of your favorite sports team ruin your day? it's too stupid. Are you going to let a hater of your favorite celebrity make you angry? it's nonsense. Just bet on yourself, watch your own journey and never let anything outside of you make you feel something.
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