Your weakness comes not from being really weak but because you're letting people make you do something that you don't like, you're believing in them, you're trusting them and that's why you don't trust yourself anymore. Their suggestions is more important than your own belief and that's why your confidence is going down. Learn to reject people, reject their ideas and suggestions if you don't like it. Don't worry if you hurt somebody, it's their fault if they're too sensitive. For as long as what you're doing is right... never mind if they got hurt or not, it's their duty to protect their emotions, if they're too attached with little things then they are only hurting themselves even more. Stop being too emotional an worried about what people think, your business is to make yourself happy. Prioritize yourself first, make yourself successful and happy first before prioritizing other people.
STOP BEING TOO KIND
Being too kind is a waste of a lot of energy. You wanted to help them every time they ask for it and you're always thinking if you will give them or not because you don't want them to get mad at you. Even if you don't have anything to offer, you cannot reject their request because you're too afraid of being labeled as selfish or bad. Being too kind will make you weak and fragile, you don't need to be kind all the time because you will become a target of abuse. There are lots of abusers in your circle and once they feel that you can submit easily... they will use you for their own agenda that will not even benefit you. At the end of the day you are only hurting yourself every time you say yes but you really don't mean it. Stop being a yes man, stop saying yes all the time just to avoid hurting their feelings. They're not special so don't ever treat them like they are. You have your own life too, you need to put yourself on the top of the list before someone else. You need to take care of your life, take care of yourself and never let anybody use you. Reject people if you need to because it's the best way to teach yourself and them a lesson. If you can say no then it means you are getting stronger and stronger, stop feeling sorry if they get disappointed, it's their choice if they make it a bid deal.
FORGET ABOUT BEING EMOTIONAL
At the end of the day, the people who were losers are the ones who are too emotional. Stop attaching any emotion to anything if you want to make a progress fast. How they feel about your decision is none of your business. It's up to them if they are hurt, the truth is... people are the ones who were hurting themselves by being too emotional and sensitive. Stop taking anything personally and just focus on what you're trying to achieve, focus on your values and philosophy. Emotions will destroy you, it will stop you, it will slow you down, it will never make you think rationally. You have to put aside your emotions and never think that it's a priority. If you want to have a better life then stop being too emotional and focus on yourself first. Focus on making yourself better. At the end of the day each one of us is responsible for his own feelings and not the external things so stop feeling guilty if you rejected somebody, it's his fault if he is feeling bad.
Emotions will come and go, people will feel bad now but will feel good later. It depends on the person if he wants to feel bad the whole day. If you need to reject a person, if you need to contradict him... do it without feeling any regret because you are serving yourself by doing that. Most people want something to get but they don't want to invest. They just want something for free, they think they're something special. Stop spoiling these kind of people and start focusing on giving yourself the authority to reject everything that you don't like. Being soft nowadays will never work, being needy will never give them a good life. So if they will blame you for having a bad life so be it. Let them hate you but never hate back, never give them any single second, just move forward towards your dreams and live peacefully.
AVOID POEPLE WHO ARE MAKING DRAMAS
people who are always making dramas on facebook and in real life were toxic people, avoid them because one day they will ask for your help and will destroy you and say bad things when you're not around if you don't give them what they want. Avoid people who are always looking for a sympathy or validation, these people were no good to you. Reject these people because they will only make your life miserable. They are not trustworthy and they will only become a poison to your mind. Your circle of friends should be full of positive people, ignore the toxic ones, reject them whenever they need something from you. At the end of the day it is your life, it is your duty to make your life better and it will never improve if you keep on saying yes. Stop being too soft and sensitive, learn to reject people that are not serving you.
THEY WILL REJECT YOU TOO
Some people will reject you too and it's part of life, it's part of the game so you need to learn how to reject people too without feeling guilty. If they rejected you, just move on and forget it, never feel anything bad about it. It's part of the business, people will do what is good for them including rejecting people. At the end of the day you can never control the decision and feelings of others. Make rejecting people and accepting rejection as a norm, it is not a big deal, never take anything personally. If they say NO so be it, be happy for them and move on.
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