There should be no regrets, what you choose was right. The color of the shoes, the wife you married, the business you started, the big decision you made, the car that you bought, the challenge that you faced, the new life that you're trying to create, the shirt that you wear, the house that you bought, the path that you take... everything was right. What makes it wrong is you feel that there is a better choice, what makes it wrong is you didn't appreciate your own decision and you're still thinking that it is somehow wrong. You have to make a stand for your decision even if you're struggling because of it, you have to think that it is right and feel thankful that you did it. Because most people were doubting their decisions that's why they don't have a peace of mind, that's why they're not happy. Once you pick something... feel happy about it, use it, appreciate it, love it and never ever think that there is a better option.
BE A SINGLE MIDED PERSON
Know what you want, stop thinking too much, stop letting your mind be used by different things, stop getting confused, once you pick something... live with it and never ever think that your choice is wrong, it's right, you pick it, the reason why you're having trouble accepting it is because someone told you that there is something better, or maybe you see something that you think is much better than what you have. Once you pick something... don't look anywhere else, don't look for something better than what you pick, focus on your choice and live with it. Don't let other people affect your mentality, if someone told you that there is something better out there... don't listen, make a stand for your choice, appreciate it and never think that you pick the wrong thing. It is right and will always be right, what makes you feel that it is wrong is because you're looking outside, you're looking for more, you're trying to be perfect, you're trying to convince everyone that you did the right thing. It feels much better being ok with your choices and having peace with it, it feels much better if you will not complain of what you have and simply be satisfied and be appreciative with what you got. Things gets worse when you're complaining, comparing and acting like a spoiled rich kid, you're not special, you're just an ordinary human being so stop looking for perfection all the time.
STOP COMPARING YOUR CHOICE
You think it's the wrong choice because you saw someone having better than you. You saw something that is bigger, more colorful, brighter, softer, more comfortable, more accessible, more advance etc. You start to see your choice as something below than other people's choice, you start to see yourself being less than others, you start to feel unappreciative. And that makes you unhappy and unsatisfied, if you will not compare yourself to others then you will be at peace, comparison is the thief of joy, it's making you feel less, it's making you feel unsuccessful and small. You have to stop comparing what you have with other people because it's only disturbing your mind. What you have is enough, what you have is ok, it may not be the perfect choice but it will be perfect if you will learn to love it with all your heart.
STOP BEING TOO PICKY
Top being too choosy, stop being too picky because you're only wasting your time and energy if you have that kind of mindset. You're not special, you're not a God. Stop acting like you need a perfect house, partner, clothes, shoes, situation etc. You need to embrace what's been given to you, you need to accept that sometimes all you can choose is the worse option. If you don't have the means to pick something close to perfect so be it. If all you can have is a cheap clothes, cheap car, small house, mediocre school, average company so be it. It's better to appreciate what you have than to belittle what you have, because all the judging does is make you feel depressed. It's easier to become happy if you will have the right mindset, it's easier to have a peace of mind if you will accept what you can't change. If you don't have the power to pick the best option then stop acting like you're entitled of something bigger and better, be happy with what you have and what you can have, stop trying to be something that you are not because all it does is mess up your mentality and stop you from having a peaceful sleep at night.
YOU CAN NEVER HAVE A PERFECT LIFE
There is no perfect partner, there is no perfect place, there is no perfect day, there is no perfect attire, there is no perfect car, there is no perfect friends. Perfection is just an illusion, if you can be happy right now and stop comparing yourself to others then your life was already perfect. Change something if you have the power but if you can't change it then just accept it. Your choice will never be perfect but you can think that it's the right one so that you will never be confused and will have no regrets. Stop thinking too much once you made a decision and live with it, never feel that there is always something better. The funny thing is some people will always change their minds once they made a decision, they will never get satisfied, for example a picky lady will buy a black bag but will think that the red one is better after buying that bag. After a few days she will decide to buy another bag, this is crazy because it's just a color and it's disturbing her badly, it's not making her sleep at night.
BE FAST IN MAKING A CHOICE AND MOVE FORWARD
Perfection will never be achieved, you will always find flaws in your choice but it's your responsibility to convince yourself that it's the right thing. Stop comparing yourself to others, stop thinking that what you have is not enough. Once you made a choice... appreciate it and move forward, never let that weak mindset bug you, never think that there is always something wrong, live in the moment be happy with what you have and stop acting like you need to have a perfect choice. Life will become much easier if you will just be happy with what you have and focus on the bigger goals, focus on what will make you progress and not on what will stop you. Thinking too much is derailing your progress, it's making you feel stuck, it's bugging you and it's not healthy for you.
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