If you want to become better then practice saying no all the time. Never care if someone gets offended or disappointed because you rejected them. If you really don't want to do it then don't do it. When you say NO make a stand for it, neve change it, never give mercy, just say no and stick with your decision no matter what. Never let people who makes dramas manipulate you, never give them any sympathy. Saying no means saying yes to yourself. You have to choose yourself first before anyone else. It's ok if you will lose friends, it's ok if people call you selfish. Choosing yourself is the best decision that you can do. Because sometimes giving too much is making you stuck, it's not doing anything good to you.
Giving your time for free, giving your money for free, lending people some money and they will not return it, giving everyone a favor, saying yes to your abusive boss, saying yes to people that you don't eve like just to please them. You are only hurting yourself very time you say yes but you don't mean it, you are only putting yourself on a bad position. Stop pleasing people, stop trying to be so nice and just be yourself, choose yourself. Always ask yourself if saying yes is going to make you better, think if it's putting you on a better position, if not then never hesitate to say no, never let people abuse you or use you. You have to become hard, you have to become tough. Because the truth is... the people who really loves you will never get angry even if you reject them, they will understand it. Don't be scared of what they think, don't be scared of how they feel and just focus on getting better.
PUSH IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL
Don't talk again after saying no, really mean it, you have to stay quiet after saying it and never explain yourself. You can tell a few sentences and then just stay quiet after saying it. Never let anyone change your mind, never let anything make you feel something. Stay cold, stay still and never get emotional, stop thinking too much and just go back to your journey. Feel good after saying it because it means you're giving yourself a favor, it means you're really serious in making your life better. Because saying no means saying to opportunity, you are putting yourself on a better position because you're using your energy the right way. Push it to the next level, say no all the time, make yourself always unavailable, make yourself hard to get and never feel that you owe them something. You owe it to yourself to become great, stop feeling guilty if you disappointed someone, it's their fault if they feel that way, they should be taking care of their emotions.
BE GENEROUS THE RIGHT WAY
Sometimes you are being generous with your time, money etc. that you almost forgot yourself. Sometimes you're giving away your resources for free but you don't really like it deep inside. This kind of attitude is hurting you most of the time, it's not helping you at all so why still do it? give only something if you really want. Never let toxic people abuse you or use you. Once you were able to detect that someone is just using you for their own selfish act... stop it, never let him do it again. Set boundaries, set limits, it's ok if you offended someone, again... that's their fault, they shouldn't be acting that way. You have to be tough, be hard and never let any dramas or manipulation make you a decision that you don't want from the very beginning.
YOU SAID YOU WANT IT NOW PROVE IT
You said you wanted to change, you said you're going to turn your life around, you said there is something you need to do now prove it. Stop acting like it's not the time, stop pretending that there are some other priorities. Use the power of no, say no to BS, say no to uselessness, say no to nonsense. Reject everything that is not pushing you further, throw away the useless things in your life, block the toxicity and start improving. Make your mentality stronger, face every adversity and focus on getting to the next level. Be fast in taking actions, be fast in rejecting something that will never help you to prosper. Reject the negative thoughts, eliminate the bad habits and block all the toxic people around you. Be selective of anything that is entering your life. It's time to make a stand, it's time you make a brutal change that will place you on a better position to thrive. Just give everything you've got and never look back, never stop yourself, allow yourself to shine, allow yourself to become better than yesterday. Elevate your mindset, elevate your game.
IT'S NEVER A SELFISH THING TO PRIORITIZE YOURSELF FIRST
Just like what Michael Jordan said... you have to be selfish first to become successful, and when you become successful that's the time you can help other people. Prioritize yourself first, get better, get stronger and when you have so much then that's the time you can help other people to rise too. You can never help someone if you're always acting like a hero but doesn't have so much to offer. Stop acting like a martyr and say now whenever you need to. Stop feeling sorry for others, it's their lives, it's their choice, we created out lives so never feel guilty if you can't help anybody, it's their fault if they're struggling because they didn't made the right decisions. Just move forward all the time and make sure all of your actions are putting you to a better position to thrive, never let somebody make you feel bad because you didn't agree to them, just follow your heart and never be afraid to disappoint or reject somebody. Because at the end of the day you can never control everybody's perception of you, they will still judge you and hate you no matter how good you are to them.
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