Most people were not happy because they always need someone in order to become happy, they need validation, they need appreciation, they need good comments from other people which is a wrong way to deal with life. If you're always chasing somebody to reply on you, text you, mention you, give affection to you, appreciate you then you're in big trouble, it's the number one root of depression... looking for validation. So what if they don't lie you? your confidence should not be coming from them. If they don't like you so be it, just stay confident and keep getting better everyday. Being needy of someone's care and attention will only create depression.
YOU WILL BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE IF YOU'RE FOCUSING ON YOURSELF
If you're needy of someone's attention then you will become unattractive but if you will focus on improving yourself then you will become attractive. It's because your energy will look so positive, you will look confident, people will feel your powerful vibe. Because the reason why you're not attractive is because you're always thinking about other people. You're chasing them, pleasing them and trying to impress them. You should be bold and know what you want. Just become better, hone your skills, groom yourself, improve everyday, if they don't like you then that's their lost not yours. You should not crave for someone's attention because you can never control how they feel all the time. Sometimes they love you and sometimes they don't, what they feel for you will never be forever and you have to accept it. So stop focusing on other people and focus on yourself instead, you will feel better this way. Give more time to yourself, treat yourself and try to evolve a little bit everyday. Having this kind of mindset will make you grow even more. Because there is no room for growth if you're trying to chase people, you are wasting your precious time and energy because you will never get anything by doing that.
CHASING SOMEONE MEANS GIVING AWAY YOUR HAPPINESS
Chasing someone, trying hard to make her like you means you're not focusing on what you can control, it means you are giving away your happiness. Because your happiness doesn't need to come from other people. What if the person you like can't like you? are you going to become depressed forever. If a bitch doesn't reply on your message then let that bitch go because you don't need her. Your power is inside of you, it's coming from the way you carry yourself, it's coming from the way you exercise your freedom. If something or someone is controlling you because they make you feel something then you're not free. Nothing should control you just because you feel something about it.
MASTER DETACHMENT
Detach from anything, detach from the idea that you need someone to make you happy. Detach from your emotions towards different people. Always remember that if you're getting your happiness from other people then you will be sad all the time. You will become unhappy if they didn't meet your demands. Detach from anything, detach from the outcome, detach from the outside world and focus on your inner being. If you were able to detach yourself from anything and completely focus on the now then you will become powerful, you will be able to exercise absolute freedom, you will feel invincible and untouchable, you will be able to take massive actions that leads to wonderful results.
EVERYONE IS INCLUDED IN YOUR RULE
Including your closest friends, including your parents, including your high school crush... never chase them. If people don't want you so be it, if people are not giving you attention so be it. Nobody is exempted here. It should be your philosophy, never try to impress anybody, just be yourself and try to grow every single day. Focus on becoming better, focus on becoming successful and they will be the one who will chase you one day. Because if you are trying so hard to get someone's attention then you are not being authentic anymore, you will become more unattractive and your value will go down. Just be yourself, accept it if they like you or not and never hate them for not giving you some love. Because at the end of the day you should be the one who must love yourself, you should be the one taking care of yourself and not anybody else.
NEVER CARE ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU
You have to accept that what they think of you is uncontrollable, the reason why you can't express yourself to the fullest is because you always care about what they think, you want them to think good about you, you don't want your identity to be tarnished, you want to look perfect and cool and that's why you're always conservative of your actions, that's why you feel not so free all the time. But if you will not mind what other people think of you then you will become faster, more decisive, expressive and will be able to accomplish more things in life. You will become more productive and creative, you will feel much better than before. Because you are also chasing people every time you care of what they think, you are trying to impress them unconsciously, you don't want them to get mad, you don't want them to get angry at you, you don't want to offend them and the result is you not being able to do what you want.
PROTECT YOUR TIME
Use your time to make yourself a little bit better than yesterday. Improve financially, physically, mentally and spiritually. Never waste your time simping, stalking or being needy of someone's attention. You don't need them, you only need yourself, you only need to get better and the right people will come into your life. So what if you have few friends, so what if you're not dating a hot chick right now? so what if you're a lone wolf? at least you have full control of your life.
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