WHAT IS DONE IS DONE

No matter how hard you cry, no matter how you promise to become a better person if you can bring back the past... you cannot bring it back anymore. What is done is done, what happens from the past stays with the past. You cannot change it anymore, you cannot do something about it even if you cry so hard or pray so hard. You cannot manipulate past, all you can do is change your present and prepare for the future.

You can hate your past, you can remember your ugly past but how does that help you? are you going to progress by doing that? all you can do is have peace with your past and bury it forever. Be happy even if your past is ugly because it's all you can do.

You are still alive, you can still experience a lot of nice things. There is no need to dwell on the past because real life is happening now. There is no life in the past, it is all just memories and thoughts. You are only making your life difficult by remembering past and giving it some life. Kill your past and never try to remember it anymore. If it is still playing on your mind then just think of some other thoughts that are happier. Overwrite the ugly memories with good memories. Create happy moments now and get rid of your past forever.

What is done is done, if you made a lot of mistakes yesterday then you can do a lot of great things today. 

HAVE NO REGRETS. Regrets will only make you slow, it will only make you stuck in the past. Just forget everything if you want to start again. Starting is very easy, all you need to do is look for a direction and relentlessly go for it. Never change your chosen direction anymore, live for it and die for it. Regrets is for the weak, it is for people who thinks that they can't change their life anymore. What is done is done, just accept that you made a mistake, accept that you'e been bad in the past and try to change your situation now.

No matter what your age is... even if you're too old, all you can do is be happy with your life now and try to make your life a little bit better and better each day. Even the young ones too, you still have a lot of time left in your life. There are more good things that will happen so never get too hard on yourself and forget all the bad memories from the past.

HOW TO FORGET THE PAST QUICKLY?

1. Pursue a goal. It doesn't matter what kind of goal it is, what matters is you pursue it relentlessly. Goals will give you a direction, it will give you a reason to wake up early and start your day with a blast. It can be a small goal or a big goal, it really doesn't matter, you just need to be serious with it and give your all so that you will be entertained and do the right things.

2. Talk to the right people and tell them about your dark past. You need someone to talk to so that you can tell your stories. Telling your past to the right people will make yourself free from it, once you tell your story... forget it and if they have good advises to you... take their advises and move on. Never tell your story repeatedly because you will only look like a moron by doing that. You are also not freeing yourself by doing that, once you tell it once... forget it. Make sure that you will tell your story to someone who will listen to you sincerely and will not make fun of you. It can be your closest friend, mom, wife, father, sibling. If you don't have someone to talk to then find free consultation online, there are lot of it. All you need to do is be courageous to talk about your dark past and let it go once you told it to someone.

3. Make yourself great. Make yourself gorgeous, make yourself rich, learn a skill where you can really be good at. If you can make yourself great then you will love yourself even more and you will be able to forget the past. You will enjoy living and you will understand the real meaning of live. It can be about business, arts or any knowledge that you can share to the public.

4. Don't ever have self pity. Never compare yourself to others, never think that you are weak. Never engage with stupid dramas because you will only get worse by doing that. Always think that you are strong and you can free yourself from traumas and bad memories. Remember that you are still living and anything is possible to your life. If your life is not doing good now... just work hard and stay strong, everything will change in just a matter of time.

5. Just persevere until you finally reach the top. All you have to do is persevere, endure the hardship of life and keep moving forward. Once you set your goal... never stop until you finally reach it. It only looks hard because you're looking at the finish line already, if you will take it one step at a time then you will find out that it's is easy as 1 2 3.

6. Move to a different place if needed. If you were so affected by the people around you... move to another place. Sometimes experiencing a different surrounding will give you a different feeling, you will be able to start fresh and forget the people that is making you feel bad.

7. Just focus on the positive. If you can make it a game to simply focus on the positive then you will really feel different. Your life will change, positive things will happen to you. Even if people are mocking you or not treating you right... if you can focus on the positive then you will have a different world. This kind of approach will make you forget the ugly past quickly. 

8. Build a new self identity. Choose an identity that you wanted to choose and live it everyday. If you were being bullied from the past because you were so passive, be aggressive this time, be assertive. Make them feel that you're a different person and you are not joking around. Be serious, they are making fun of you because they think you are soft. Choose the hard identity this time and make them know who is the real boss. 

9. Have time for yourself. Focus on yourself, make yourself grow everyday. Be alone if needed, understand what you really want and what you really need. Pick the things and people that are contributing to your life and giving you happiness, strike out the things that are making your life miserable. Choose what you really need in life, make your life simple and focused on positivity.

10. Take it one day a time. Don't force things, live your life second by second. Enjoy each moment even if that moment is not fun nor happy. Live your life slowly and progressively. Have the mindset that everything will turn out well in just a matter of time, if you are feeling bad right now... hang on, that emotion will change one day, you will become happier and you will live a better life. Situations are not permanent if you are doing something about it.

11. Join some activities or programs that really attracts you. Don't do something just for the sake of trying to look cool and impressing other people. Don't surf on the ocean if you're just trying to impress chicks because you will not do it for so long, you just wanted it in the beginning. Join activities that makes you passionate, it can be any activity for as long as it is contributing to your growth.

12. Try something new. Try a new process, try a new technique, test a lot of things and find out if it can make you happy for a long term. Try a new relationship, try a new food, reinvent yourself and just try to have fun everyday. 

Your future will only get destroyed if you will keep on thinking about past so what you must do is enjoy the moment and just try to put yourself on a better position. No one has the ability to change his past, it is what it is, if it happened already then simply let it go. Stop being bitter, stop whining, just try to produce the best life that you can ever produce.

Never use pills. Never use anti depression pills or any drugs that you think will help you. It will only help you in the beginning, your pain will subside but your life will become miserable in the end. If you get so dependent on something, you will lose your power. Never trust pills that it will save your life, you are the one who can change your life.

FOCUS ON BUILDING YOUR MENTAL TOUGHNESS. This is achieved through experiencing a lot of negative emotions. Negative emotions that has benefits. Join a marathon, exercise everyday, you should feel the stress and pain so that your willpower will go to a different level. Do the things that scares you the most, embarrass yourself, challenge yourself. Experience a lot of failures so you won't be afraid of it anymore. If you are mentally tough then you will surpass any challenges in life. Being mentally tough will make you forget your past easily. And if anything bad happens to you in the future... it will not affect you big time, you will treat it like an ordinary problem that you can handle.

Mental toughness is a great asset that you can have, if you are mentally tough then you can go further, you can achieve a lot of things, you can become successful. You can laugh at any problems that is giving you bad emotions. You will feel like invincible and extra ordinary. Being mentally tough is what everyone needs in life, not appreciation, not riches, not support... just being mentally tough will make you do better in life.

Look at the celebrities who take away their life, look at the rich people who become crazy... why did those tragic things happened to them? it is because they are not mentally tough, they were so soft and fragile. They can't handle any negative emotions. Their emotional immune system is very weak, all they want is to be happy and when they can't have those good emotions... they become depressed, they were acting like shits and becoming needy. They want attention from other people, they want sympathy and approval. They don't know that the secret in life is simply growth and endurance. If you know that you can grow from pain then you will no longer be afraid of it. Just endure it because it will go away in just a matter of time. It is not the one who is the happiest and richest that will survive, it is the one who is ok feeling the pain and understanding the benefit of it.

Life is a process, you need to make your life better each day or else you will lose your balance. You will get jealous with other people's life and you will become a needy person. Someone who is needy of help, appreciation and sympathy. You need to do it on your own, become better on your own, become stronger on your own. Embrace every kind of stress because it is a blessing, it will make you a hard person, it will make you mentally tough and capable of adapting to any kind of situation. What is done is done, have no regrets, don't complain, don't make dramas, don't make excuses... just live your life and focus on self improvement.