Are you always panicking for no reason? do you feel threaten when there is a large crowd looking at you? do you feel uncomfortable when you suddenly find out that the man behind you is already making disturbing sounds because you're too long to order the food on the counter? do you always blush or sweat when your crush is around? do you feel so nervous during the interview? do you feel shy when asking a favor from someone?
SLOW EVERYTHING IN YOUR SYSTEM
This is the secret to confidence... slow everything in your system. If you're panicking just slow down, breathe and you will find that confidence again. Feel everything, embrace fear, embrace what is going on. You will become scared even more if you're rushing and wishing for the discomfort to go away. The more you wish to become comfortable the more you will become uncomfortable. What you resist will persist, you just need to feel it. Feel it even if it's too uncomfortable and irritating. Learn to enjoy what's going on with your life, learn to slow down and look around, hear everything, feel everything. You will find out that it's really not that bad, don't judge the situation according to its appearance, always feel abundant and positive.
IGNORE THE BULLSHITS AND MOVE FORWARD
Accept that there life is not about perfection. It is about embracing all the imperfections and moving forward. You can only change the flow of what's happening if you will embrace your negative emotions and still do the right thing.
LOOKING CUTE SHOULD NOT BE YOUR GOAL
Your goal should be being true to yourself no matter what. Execute what needs to be done even if most people doesn't like it. Still speak even if nobody wants to listen. If you want to look perfect all the time then you will always feel insecure, you will always see something wrong in the way you look and behave, you will never have a peace of mind. You don't need to look cool, you don't need to become popular or get a lot of attention, just be yourself, do what you want to do and never do the things that you don't want to do.
WELCOME EVERYTHING IN LIFE
Whatever, welcome everything may it be good or bad, don't feel bad if you got embarrassed, it's ok, you're still alive, for as long as you're working hard and doing it your way... you will be happy along the way. It doesn't matter if you suck, maybe you suck for now but life is all about possibilities, you can change everything if you believe in yourself enough and try again next time. You will look more confident and feel confident if you will open your heart to everything and understand that everything that's happening is all part of your life whether it's good or bad.
WHAT IS THERE LEFT TO LOSE?
Don't ever think that you have a lot to lose, you are nothing in the beginning, when you're just a baby you have zero properties. Stop thinking that you can lose something, you don't have anything to lose, you can get anything you want if you will let go all of the imaginary worries inside of your head that you have a lot to lose.
ALWAYS THINK THAT IT'S NOT A BIG DEAL
What's happening now is nothing, it's just a small figment of your life, it's just a part of your life, you can erase it in your mind. So don't ever think that what's going on is the only opportunity of a lifetime, don't think that way. Treat it as an ordinary occasion and the pressure will go away.
TREAT EVERYTHING AS A GAME
Everything is a game, it's just a matter of executing your will to get what you want. The question is do you have the right energy to do what is needed? is your body language portraying confidence? can you command respect? Relax this is just a game, you will never lose if you always try. Don't put too much pressure on yourself because it is not needed. Try winning everyday and if you lose... try again, this is just a game, you will never lose anything, you have everything to gain, keep trying again and again until you become successful.
BE A DOER AND NOT A WATCHER
Every time you procrastinate and not do anything your confidence is going down. Be a creator, always try to build something. Build a business, build your own blog, build your you tube channel, stop being a procrastinator, stop watching them and just watch your own life, watch your own growth, see yourself evolving. You will become more confident if you're focused being you. Never mind who is popular, never mind who is the richest and most successful in your circle, just be you, make yourself evolve, learn how to love your work and try to grow as much as possible. Stop wasting your life watching other people's lives because you are throwing away your opportunity off the window every time you do that, you have to start building something from scratch, believe that it will grow, believe that it can become something.
NEVER MIND IF YOU DON'T EXPERIENCE IT
What make you lose your confidence is you get jealous with other people all the time. You're not focusing on your own life. You want to win like them too, want to go where they go, you want to earn how much they earn, you want to live where they live, you want to eat what they eat, you want to have what they have. It doesn't matter if you can't experience their lifestyle, yours is different than theirs. You always think that you need to do what they are doing, you don't set a bar for yourself. You need to focus on your own life and appreciate what's going on with your life even if it's not that exciting. To become more confident you need to stop getting jealous with other people and never compare yourself to anyone.
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