First you're scared of your professor and wondering if he will pass you or not then he passed you and you graduated college, your parents were very happy, you think you finally made it and the thorn in your throat is gone. All of you are celebrating, you thought the suffering is gone. Then after a few weeks or months your parents are pushing you to look for a job, you got scared again. You're scared of the interview, you're scared because it's a different world. Your fear become stronger because of what you heard about other people that there is a recession, it's difficult to find job at this moment. You are getting paranoid, those negative information is starting to control your mind. But you're lucky you maintain your sanity so you persevere and look hard to find a job, and then after a few months of suffering... you finally land a job, not the best one but at least you have. You have a job that you think you deserve even if you're overqualified, you said to yourself that there is no time to become picky because it's recession.
You're relieved again, you have a job and then there goes the evaluation period... you're so scared that you might not get regularized. You're so scared of the idea that your performance was not enough for the company to keep you. You think you haven't done enough to convince them that you deserve a spot in their company, there you are... scared again.
But you got lucky again, you got regularized, you even got promoted after a few years of hard work and perseverance but the news broke out that your company will get rid of some of the employees because they can no longer pay all of you, they have to minimize the budget and make a cost cutting. So here you are again... scared again, you are praying the whole day that you won't lose your job. But luck isn't on your side this time... you're one of the employees who will go because your performance is not at its best. You got complacent for the last few months because you think your job is already stable. Your still a little bit lucky because the company gave you a back pay good for 3 months without a job. At least you have something to use while hunting for a new job. You're so scared again because you will be in an unfamiliar territory again just in case you find a new job. But 5 months have already passed and you haven't find one, your money was gone, you're depressed, your mind is crowded with fear because you don't know what to do anymore. You're thinking about selling your soul to the devil but your old high school friend ask offered you a low paying job in their company, and because you're desperate you bite it. You have a fresh start, you're a little relieved again and you're hoping that there would be no problems in the future anymore. But that's a weak prayer and it won't be answered for sure.
DON'T BE SCARED TO BECOME SCARED
You have to realize that you will become scared every once in a while. There will always be something to scare you and that's normal. Life is always changing, life is full of surprises and most of the time unwanted surprises. Something will always bother your mind. Something will always dare to challenge you physically and mentally, it's all part of this game called Life. If you recently solved your problem don't worry there will be another problem in the future, that's life, that's the cycle, nobody can break the system because life is Yin and Yang, it is balance. There is a problem and there is a solution, there is a fear and you can find the courage to beat that fear. So don't worry every time you're scared, you will always be relieved, you can always overcome. After all... all fear will soon go away, it's ok to feel it for now, it will go away anytime soon. Let it scare you, let it make you feel terrible but never let it stop you. Fight fire with fire, fight fear with taking action. You can still work hard even if you have a troubled mind, you can still do something and produce something great even if you're shaking and panicking, it's all about using your willpower to fight your fear and move anyway. Always remember that you can never escape fear, you will always feel it but the greatest ones were never afraid to become scared, they move despite of their fears and imposes their will.
PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT THERE WILL BE ANOTHER CHALLENGE
The question is... what challenge are you focused on? There will always be another challenge, there will always be another test... that's they cycle of life. There is no completion, there will be no rest. You have to deal with it, don't look for peace... develop a strength to endure the war, war in your head, obstacles in your life. You will be scared now and you will be scared again later. There will be a challenge in your life now then you will be able to overcome it and then there will be another challenge later, the cycle goes on and on. What are you focusing on? it's better to be focused on a challenge or problem that has a reward rather than focusing on a problem that will not even help you. It's better to focus on your goals and be problematic about it rather than focusing on the problems of your neighbor or the problems of the government. You need to smart enough where you will place your energy because it's really draining and stressful to be focusing your energy to something that has no equivalent reward, focus your strength and attention to something that will make you grow.
Because if there is no more challenge anymore, life will become very boring, you will look for another challenge, you will look for something that will give your life a spice. That's why celebrities and children of billionaires go crazy, it's because they haven't faced any kind of pain before, they were so pampered and protected, they were not scared before that's why there is no balance in their lives and they go crazy or do crazy things that we don't understand.
You need fear, it will make you feel alive, it will make you feel normal, without it there is something wrong with you. So embrace fear, love it, appreciate it because it's a guide. It will make you stronger, it will mold you into a different beast, it will push you to take actions and make your position a little bit better. So don't stress yourself out if you're scared right now, don't think about the future, think about what you can do to make your situation better. Taking actions will neutralize fear, for as long as you're moving forward... you will be alright.
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