If something is abusing you, if you don't like what's going on, if you don't like the place you are in... reject it, you have the power to reject everything. You just need to act tough, you just need to think that you have nothing to lose. Saying no is power. Say what you need to say do what you need to do and don't be afraid if you disappoint somebody. It's their problem if they have an onion skin, they're the ones who are hurting themselves by being sensitive. The time for being soft is over, people can reject you and the good thing is you can reject the too, it's time to learn how to say no, it's time to stop being too attached with other people's feelings. You've got to prioritize what is best for you and your family, you have to say no all the time if you need to and never feel really bad about it. When you say no, mean it and never change it.
SAY NOW WITHOUT EXPLANATION
Once you say no, once you reject something... move on right away. Never explain yourself, never try to make excuses just to avoid someone's feelings getting hurt. When you say now, mean it and never have any regrets. Never feel sorry if you offended or disappointed someone, it's their fault if they're too emotional. Stay away from toxic people who were always making dramas and lies just to make you say yes. Avoid these types of people because they will make you shrink. Detach to the situation right away and never feel anything about it, when you say it mean it, don't change your mind don't feel sorry for anyone that was rejected because this happens to everyone, this is not an unusual thing, it is very common in our everyday living. Rejection is part of the game, it is part of your life so get use to it. If you got rejected move on, if you rejected someone... don't feel bad about it. Say no easily, don't attached hard feelings with it.
Remind yourself that you can say no anytime, you have the power to speak this two letter word. You don't need the courage, you can say it even if you are scared or nervous, you can say it even if you're not sure, just say it and make a stand. If you don't want to get pushed around all the time... say no all the time. Stop being weak and soft. Say no now, it is your protection, it will serve as an opening to a new beginning. say no all the time and never feel guilty for it.
SAYING NO IS POWER
It means you love yourself, it means you know what yo really want, it means you're putting yourself on a better position to succeed. Saying no means you're putting yourself on a better position to succeed in life. And besides, why the hell will you say yes if what being offered is a trash and a liability? you have to say no and stop being afraid of getting bullied. Most people say yes all the time because they're so afraid of the person that they want to reject, they're so afraid of getting bullied and that's why they always say yes even if they don't want to. If you're good in saying no then you will be able to select what you really want, you will be able to command your life the way you want it, you will be able to see the best options and not just agree with anybody that's not giving you an advantage. If you can say no then you will be able to remove all the toxic people in your life. Stop pleasing them, stop trying to make them feel better by saying yes all the time, stop being a yes man, become a no man and nobody can touch you. If you don't like what is being offered or suggested... say no right away, just say it and really mean it, you will find out later if your decision was right.
WELCOME THE PAIN
Sometimes you will feel so guilty when you say no, sometimes you're the one who is hurt after saying no, and that is what makes you weak. Welcome the pain, don't resist it. Even if you're hurting after saying no... embrace it, you will get use to it. Stop feeling guilty, stop feeling selfish, you're doing it for yourself not because you're selfish but because you're so sick and tired of people abusing you. It's just an emotion, learn how to stop being emotional and you will become really good in saying no. Pain is just a feeling, sometimes it's real a little bit but most of the time it's imaginary. Know what you are thinking, be mindful with the moment and any pain will go away, think of it as nothing, if you will just embrace it then it will have no power over you.
REJECT WEAKNESS
If you're so sick and tired of your life, if you don't want to get the same mediocre results again and again then reject weakness, say no to a lousy version of you, say no to a lazy and weak version of you. Start moving fast, start doing more, start being early, start being decisive. Being strong is a choice, if you will just reject the old version of you then you will become something special. Weakness is just a state of mind, you programmed yourself to become weak by choosing weak activities everyday. You're using a weak energy, you're using a weak state of mind. If you will just believe in yourself and start working hard then you will never become weak anymore. Weakness is not about being really weak and not being able to achieve something, weakness means you're accepting what you don't want by saying yes all the time. Say no to laziness, weakness, slowness, being a yes man. Never accept that you're limited, say no to negativity and say yes to possibilities.
