IT'S ALL ABOUT CONFIDENCE AND STEPPING UP

Success, greatness, luck, capturing magical moments, creating miracles, greatest comebacks, unexpected breaks is all about confidence and stepping up. It's like having an ugly face but asking a girl out for a date, it's like having no experience but applying for a position that you have no idea, it's like going to a war without a weapon and all you have is courage and the willingness to die with an honor. 

FAKE YOUR CONFIDENCE

If you don't have confidence at all then just fake your confidence, tell yourself that you can do it. Never think and just take actions. Moving will make you feel so much better than overthinking. Lack of confidence is the result of inaction. Count from 1 to 1.5 then move, never worry, never think about what's going to happen and just move. If you need to ask a girl just ask her, stop thinking about the smell of your breath, stop thinking about the big pimple on your nose, stop worrying about your oily face, stop thinking if you're cool or not and just as her out on a date. If she say no then just smile and say thank you, just think that this potential victim is smart and good for her because she's safe. Just play jokes on your head so that you won't feel too bad even if you're hurting. Trust me, you will feel much better if you ask her even if you got rejected, preparing too much for the right time will cause a lot of stress. It will make your self esteem so low, inaction creates doubts and fears. Step up, man up and accept if you lose. It's ok to lose, it's much better to lose trying than to lose without even using an ounce of your energy. 

Keep in your mind that you're not confident now because you're wasting your time and every time you're wasting time it means you're wasting your life, you're losing a lot of energy every time you procrastinate, you have to go out there and try, jump in, step up, man up and just give yourself a chance to win even if you don't have the perfect cards on your hands. 

Some winners doesn't have enough confidence in themselves but they manage to build it up second by second because they keep taking actions even if it's difficult, they try even part of them is stopping them to move. They force themselves to take actions because they don't want any opportunity to escape. They take the shot, they ask the girls, they take the risk, they sell ice on the dessert, they believe that the impossible is possible. 

BUILD IT IN YOUR MIND

If you want to become a winner you have to have confidence, you have to have the willingness to step up. Build the confidence in your mind, always say to yourself that you deserve to win. Use different affirmations and self talk. Words such as: "I can", "I don't care if I fail", "this is nothing", "I am the boss", "I will just give my very best". Use words that will make you feel better. Always think that you can make it. Build it in your mind, visualize the things that you want to happen. Never entertain negative thoughts because it will destroy your confidence, being negative will give you zero chance to get what you want. Control your mind, feed it the happiest and most colorful thoughts to make you take actions. See it in your mind before it happen in reality. Your mind is a very powerful force, what you constantly repeat in your mind will happen in reality, it's proven, it's because what you keep thinking about will become closer and closer to you, the rest depends on how you execute, it will be yours if you're thinking the right way and doing the right things. So be careful, be strict on what information you're putting on your mind. 

You can become very confident by simply seeing yourself taking actions and not caring about winning or losing, visualize that you're addicted to taking chances, see yourself not letting any moment escape. Focus on making yourself better, try everything that will level up your game and will raise your confidence, always remember that confidence will only go up if you keep on losing over and over again. Keep trying until you're no longer afraid to fail. You're so scared to try because you don't fail that much. Keep failing and you will no longer feel anything about it, you will just keep moving forward even if the risk is so high. 

FREE YOURSELF FROM THE OUTCOME

Forget the future, forget the results, forget what may happen and simply enjoy the times when you are trying to get what you want. The fun is in the process because it's what you control the most. You don't have power over the outcome. You don't know if the girl likes you, you don't know if the ball will go in, you don't know if your business will boom, you don't know if the test is hard or easy, you don't know the next question, you don't know what will happen tomorrow, you don't know if you will get the job. All you can do is try and have fun while trying, always give your best, bring your A game and be very creative. Be passionate in anything that you do so that you will have a higher percentage of winning. What will happen will happen, don't stress yourself too much about it. Just focus on moving and giving your best every now and then. Release the pressure by forgetting the results, if you lose you lose but you have to at least give it a try. It's just a numbers game, the more you try the bigger the chances of winning. Get addicted to trying and see yourself change as fast as it can. You will see that life is just a matter of taking chances and not caring if you fail or not. Because it doesn't matter if you win or not, what matters is you can look at yourself infront of the mirror and tell yourself you give your all. 

So start building your confidence by willing to embarrass yourself, be willing to take actions and step up when there is an opportunity. Grab everything you want, don't be afraid to try. What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger. There is nothing to lose here because you were born with nothing, what do you have? you only have one life so why not make the best out of it?