Don't think about it and there you go... you are free. Stop thinking that you lost, stop thinking that you failed. Just think that life is a journey and you can never get everything you want. Life is not perfect, not everything will be given to you. Do you believe that the billionaires were very happy? of course not, there is still something missing in their lives and they cannot find it. Winning or losing is all in your head. If you can still feel good, I mean really really good after losing then you haven't been defeated. Losing is bad when you feel bad, but if you feel nothing about it then it's nothing. Some people is making loss a big deal, I don't know why but the truth is you should only feel bad if you didn't give your all. But if you give your all then you should feel proud of yourself, if you knew you leave everything on the line and you risk everything in your life then you should really be proud of yourself.
LOSING BECOMES WORSE BECAUSE YOU LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE SAY
You let other people define what real victory is, you let them give you regrets because you lost. You are living according to their standards. You know what? life is yours, you can believe what you wanted to believe, you can feel happy even if you're not winning.
People will tell you that you destroyed your legacy by losing, people will tell you that your life is not complete or your career is not beautiful because you lost. This is the number one bullcrap, never let people decide how you feel. It's not about winning or losing, it's about not giving up. It's about testing yourself and giving your very best. Losing becomes painful because you always think about what people say, you believe them when they're calling you a loser. You feel bad if they're not impressed by your performance, you wanted them to praise you and that's why you wanted to win badly.
So what if they call you a loser? so what if they're laughing at you? they don't even matter. Because at the end of the day you will still have a hater even if you win big time. Never mind those people because they're just watchers and commentators, they don't know how to win in life, they're even too afraid to try, they don't have the courage to take the first step.
YOU COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHER PEOPLE TOO MUCH
You want to get what they have and if you can't get it you feel like a loser, you feel like a failure. You're too envy of what people have and that's why you feel bad because you have less. Stop comparing yourself to other people and you will achieve total freedom. Stop feeling bad if what you have is lesser, uglier, cheaper, not cool or too simple. Comparing yourself will make you lose confidence about yourself, it will make you blind because you will not see what you have anymore, you will never appreciate the things in your life. Comparing is the number one habit of losers, listening to other people's comments is the number one habit of failures. Just feel good about what happened, feel good about what you have and you will never feel like a loser anymore.
Stop comparing yourself for a month or a year and you will feel very happy, you will feel different with your life.
NOT GETTING SOMETHING DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE A FAILURE ALREADY
NBA players feel like a failure because they don't have a ring. What's that? not having a championship ring doesn't mean you're a failure. Getting it will never make you happy for the rest of your life, it will only make you happy for a few days but after that a new problem will arise. So what if you don't have a ring? it doesn't define you as a person. Some players have a ring but they still feel like a failure because they're not even playing. It's not about getting the ring, it's not about winning... it's about giving your very best. Always remember that other people were the ones responsible for labeling how a winner should like, and some of those people were too ordinary and haven't achieved anything yet.
Don't ever feel bad if you can't win, for as long as you're giving your best... you will have zero regrets in life. The power to feel good is in your hands, just think the right way and never think about how other people think. Forget their point of view on how winning should look like, stop living on their definition of winning and start creating your own definition. You have what it takes to become a winner, all you need to do is develop a mindset of winning and never attached yourself with the outcome too much.
HOW TO FEEL LIKE A REAL WINNER?
Take matters into your own hands and focus on what you can control only. If you're focused on becoming better each day and putting yourself on the best position to win then you will feel like a real winner. If you're the one chasing your dream for yourself and not others then you will feel like a real winner. If you're using all of your strength then you will feel like a real winner. You will feel so happy if you're doing everything you can to become very close to your dreams. Forget about winning, it's not in your hands, you don't have control on it. All you can control is the way you exert your effort, give your full maximum effort and you will feel like a real winner already. Focus on what you want and try to get it with all your might.
Because you will feel strong every time you give your very best, you will feel like a great person, you will feel so skilled and special, you will feel that everything you're doing is important and contributing to the world.
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