If you are waiting for someone to save you and make your situation better... stop waiting because you don't have to wait anymore, and even if you wait, nobody will come because the hero is already close to you and that hero is YOU. You don't know it because you are always waiting for somebody else, you are always expecting for help that will never come. And even if that help comes... it is just a temporary help, it won't save you in the long run. You are just hoping for nothing.
You are the one who can save yourself from being a bad guy. You are the one who can save yourself from doing bad things. No one can do it for you, it is all in your hands. You know the solutions to your problem, if you don't know it, it means you are not thinking or you don't want to save yourself. Don't ever make excuses because that kind of thinking won't save you either.
The reality is sometimes you are also the villain so it only means that you are also the hero. This is a battle between you and yourself. You have to defeat and save yourself if you want to win in life. You are you own worst enemy.
Who is the one who's making bad decisions, doing stupid activities and entertaining bad thoughts? Who is the one who's engaging in stupid habits and destroying himself? it is you right? While sometimes it is true that other people have big participation in your failure, you are still the one responsible for your results because you are the one who is making decisions in your life. There is no one else to blame but you! IT IS ONLY YOU!
So save yourself now before it's too late. You still have some time, you can still do better things in life. Push yourself and gather your strength.
How to save yourself:
1. Be responsible. You were already old, you know what is right or wrong. You don't need to save yourself if you didn't bring bullshits into your life. So if your situation sucks right now, try to be at least responsible in handling your own problem. And once your problems were solved or just slightly solved... don't bring problems to your life in the future. Stop being tempted to nonsense things that are good in the beginning but bad in the end. Act like a real grown man and stop wanting to be cool like others, because doing that will just make your situation worse. Sometimes being cool is not really cool, you are doing things that are not needed just to gather a lot of attention. Even the things that will put you in jeopardy.
2. Blame yourself. If you can learn how to blame yourself for the situation that you are in then it also means that you know you can get yourself out of there. Blame yourself so you will feel guilty about yourself and so you will be forced to take actions that can make the situation a lot better. Blame yourself so you will not do it again, blame yourself so you will not point fingers to others for the tragedy that happens to your life. By doing this, you will be able to learn how to save yourself, you can learn it on your own. You will learn how to stand up and find ways how to change your life dramatically.
3. Identify what is bad. Learn how to identify what is bad and accept that it is really bad even if it is hard for you to accept it. By doing this, you will know what not to do next time. You will know what are the things to avoid so you will be in the right direction. If your hobby is bad, accept that it is bad and stop giving time for it. If your habit is bad then learn how to change your habits, try to find habits that are more beneficiary. If your attitude is bad, accept that you are bad and force yourself to be good. It is very simple if you will accept that there are bad things in your life and you are not shy to admit it. Just be honest and never put an exemption to anything that is bad in your life, even if the bad is your favorite... still cross it out.
4. Save yourself now. Do it now before it's too late, do it now while your situation is not that worse. If you will not save yourself now then you can't be save forever. You will be stuck in a mad for eternity and you will eat shit for the rest of your life. Your potential will not be reached. You will grow old with full of disappointments. So even if it makes you crazy just to save yourself, do it. Do it while you still have the strength because if you keep on postponing the rescue... you will become a slave to your own mistakes. You will just waste your life for nothing. Your mama will cry and ask herself "what happen to my child?" and the drama will never end, what a fugly story.
5. Focus on some other things. Try to shift your focus to other things that at least will give you a positive momentum in life. Whatever it is that will somehow give you a good direction... go for it. It can be about arts, sports, music, making some money etc. Once you are doing good things in life and you are doing it everyday, it will become a habit and you will be saved forever. There are plenty of good things to do, it never ran out. There is a good position waiting for you, all you need to do is search your environment and once you find something... put your one hundred percent focus there.
So save yourself now because you are your own hero. Don't wait for someone because no one will arrive. No batman, superman or good samaritan will save your ass. You are the jailer so you are also the saver.
