JUST FOR ONCE LISTEN TO YOURSELF

So did you ever noticed that you've been getting a lot of feedbacks from different types of people and still you are not getting the result that you want? You've been following their ideas and commands, you're respecting their leads and so... how did it went out? Did you become an instant success? did you experience greatness?

And when you follow their ideas and not your own idea how did you feel? did you feel happy? did you feel accomplished? or did you feel you disrespected your own life and you remove your right to decide for yourself?

Now, you already followed what others wanted you to do. You already tried their advises and yet you still fail. You did everything they told you to do even if sometimes you want to follow your own instincts. You're like a slave to them, are they the one feeding you everyday? You're like a robot that was controlled by other people and if you don't follow they will not put battery into your system so you can't run anymore.

If you were so sick and tired of them feeding you the rules and regulations to do things then it is time for you to listen to yourself. Listen to your instincts, follow your guts, do what your heart says. Just for once never listen to what other people say, never listen to their instructions. They already failed you now it's time to fail yourself, it is better to fail on your own mistake than to fail by other's decisions.

Just for once disconnect yourself to these wannabes, unplugged from their coaching activities. Decide that you will follow every idea that your heart told you so and see if you will win or fail. Nevermind if they will get mad at you. You have your own life, you can also think, you can also decide so use your own abilities and judgement.

Just see it for yourself, see what you can do if you use your own strength, see what results will you get if you go all out and be yourself for once. And even if you fail, I am very sure you will become happy because there is no other feeling greater than being yourself and following your gut. Being yourself is already winning, it gives you good feelings and you feel the real freedom. You feel how is it to decide for yourself and genuinely do every action that your heart is telling you.

And when you decide that you are going to listen to yourself, really mean it. Never feel guilt, never feel regret because you turn people down. Never feel sad if someone gets mad at you. This is natural, a lot of people gets mad at someone who will stand for himself. Just go all out, never look back and experience being you. You will never regret it if you fail because standing up for something is already winning.

There are lots of people who already won but still feel like a loser because they let other people dictate them. They let other people decide for them, they feel like they don't own their own life so in the end they still feel like a failure.

REALIZED THAT TIME IS VERY FAST

Don't you still get it? don't you feel it? did you noticed that ten years ago feels like it was only yesterday? How about 20 years ago, it feels like it was only last week, am I right?

If you don't know that time is fast then you are a poor little child. You will just repeat what you are doing everyday until you grow old and accomplish nothing in life. And even if you have something in mind like an idea or something to pursue, if you don't know that time is fast you will just take it for granted and do nothing everyday. You will believe in the word "tomorrow". Tomorrow I will do it, tomorrow I will do my best, tomorrow I will start a project, tomorrow I will start a business, tomorrow I will change my life, tomorrow I will look for a job. Endless tomorrow that didn't arrive, endless tomorrow that always become a tomorrow.

Now, if you really believe that time is very fast then you will act now, you will not squander any second, you will cherish every time you have because you believe that time is a treasure. You will focus on what you want and do whatever it takes to get it, you will improve everyday, make progress everyday and you will stop engaging yourself into useless and unmeaningful activities.

Time is fast, it is the fastest thing on earth, nobody can beat it, nobody can manipulate it, nobody can trick it. If it is your time then it is your time. If it is not then just wait and your time will come. No one can turn back the time, no one is faster than time. Time will put pressure on you if you don't start now and do what you want to accomplish.

Did you know someone? a promising someone with lots of talents in his back? he says "I am not ready for this, I will take my time to become stronger, smarter and I will dominate. I am still young so I have a lot of time to become great". And then greatness never happens, 10 or 20 years later, his life is still the same, he didn't achieve anything or do something great.

Never believe that you are still young and you have a lot of time in the world . Most people believe that they were still young and they can still have fun before they get serious in life. They do stupid things, they party everyday, get crazy everyday only to know that they were already tool old and they did not noticed that they've wasted a lot of years. They believe that they have to have fun first before they get serious but when it's time to get serious they will learn that they don't have enough time anymore.

Time is powerful. You cannot outspeed it, you cannot make it slow. It will run whether you like it or not, even if you are the richest man in the world, still you cannot buy time. All you can do is live it. Use it wisely and it will reward you, squander it and it will punish you.

BE AFRAID

Be brave to become afraid. The reason why you are not getting what you want is because you are not willing to become afraid. Not taking chances is not being coward, it is not willing to become afraid. Because the reality is you will only become scared when you are in the situation, you will only feel fear once you are doing the things that you are scared of.

Take riding on a roller coaster as an example, fear only happens when you were on the roller coaster already and not when you are just on the line waiting for your turn. Maybe you were already a little bit scared when you were just on the line but that is not the real fear, that was just a premature fear. The real fear will sink in when you are riding on the roller coaster and you experienced all the loops and fast transition of the ride. But you will also learned that the ride is not all about fear, fear was only in the beginning and it will eventually turn into excitement.

There are millions of quotes and motivational images anywhere that says "Don't be afraid" but did it happened? tell me a person who isn't afraid at all? Tell me a successful person who is fearless and didn't feel any fear at some point in his life. "The quote don't be afraid" is a lie because you cannot control the way you feel but you can manage it. You cannot just tell your emotions "don't scare me, I am brave". You cannot just do that but you can say this to yourself "ok I am afraid but I know I am going to be fine in a moment."

Different types of fears will show on your way especially if you are pursuing something big. The difference between a winner and a loser is winners isn't afraid to become afraid. They embrace fear and they just do it anyway. Because the moment you embrace fear and be ok with it, that is the moment when fear will loses it's power little by little. Fear will diminished when you embrace it and enjoy it. Fear will even scare you if you are not aware of it and you just let emotions control you.

So don't get fooled by the saying "don't be afraid, don't be scared" because that is a lie. And even if you pass the first step, even if you already have a momentum, fear will still surprise you in an unexpected event. It can appear during times when you are very confident, it can appear when you think you are in control. It always appears in an unexpected ways so always be ready to feel fear.

Again don't be afraid to become afraid because being afraid means you have to become aware of yourself, it means you need to take an action and be in the moment. One you are in the moment you will see that fear is not a big deal, fear can be conquered once you feel it and letting it become part of what is happening around.

Be afraid, be scared, admit that you are feeling fear, admit that you are shaking. Admit that you don't want to start, move or speak because of fear. Admit that fear is entering your mind and your body but never let it control you, become ok with it for a moment and let it go. Don't force it to leave you just let it go.

YOU ARE NOT HERE BY ACCIDENT

Don't feel that you just got lucky that is why you are having the opportunity right now. You are not here by accident, you do the work, you work hard and you take every step needed to get in the position that you are holding. So don't ever take your opportunity for granted because it may never come back again.

People may labelled you as a lucky person but it's only their perspective, you don't have any business with them. You got into your position not because of destiny but because of all the works that you put in, because of those little steps that you took from the past.

You are not here because someone helps you, at some point it maybe true but the major reason why are you in your position right now is because you help yourself.

You are not here by accident, if others think that way and they believe that you just got lucky then why don't they find the luck for themselves? You are not here by accident, you have a purpose and you will give a clearer meaning for it. You will show them why you are deserving to your position. You will erase every doubt that people were giving to you. You will show the world that you are here for a reason and you can do something great.

ENJOYING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS

Enjoying a negative emotion is a one great skill that is very hard to master but for me is the most important skill that you should master if you want to succeed. Because negative emotions will always appear in everyday life and the only way to get rid of it is don't get rid of it right away, enjoy it until it becomes a positive emotion. Every negativity has an equal positivity so enjoy every emotion that you have because it is a part of who you are at the moment and who you are going to be in the future.

ENJOY SWEATING - yeah it really sucks running everyday, doing some drills, lifting heavy weights. It is really hard and is not fun but once you get use to it your joy is unlimited. Exercise is the best medicine. Exercise will give you joy that you cannot explain especially when you sweat a lot, your body will secret hormones or glands or whatever is the right term for it. Your body will feel great, you will feel young again. It is because you learn how to enjoy the negative emotion you get in the beginning and you now enjoy the positive emotion in the end. Not only sweating in physical activities but also sweat for your goals, enjoy the hardships, enjoy taking one step at a time. Enjoy sweating for every opportunity that you can take. Sweating is also succeeding, every drop of sweat is taking you closer to the place you want to be.

SACRIFICE - for every sacrifice that you made there is an equivalent reward. It sucks when you have to do extra work instead of hanging out with your friends, it sucks when you have to turn off the TV and give more time to your studies. It sucks when you have to brush your teeth first even if you were so very sleepy. It sucks when you have to repeat the process again to get more incredible results. Doing sacrifices really sucks, it is hard but if you can't sacrifice then you won't get anything. Big sacrifices will give you bigger prizes. You will be the same person that you were before if you are not willing to take the negative emotion that sacrifice will give to you. Sometimes you will self pity because you can't do the things that you want to do, sometimes you will feel so tired because you are overworked but you have no other choice but to make sacrifices because it is the only way to the top.

PATIENCE - If you can't wait for something until it comes then don't expect that it will arrive someday. You have to enjoy waiting but at the same time also moving, do something to make that waiting shorter. People tends to wait because of the misconception that waiting will give results. You have to wait but you have to produce results. Patience will make you impatient but there are things you really can't control and forced. You have to enjoy being patient because patience will give you a lot of intelligence. Being patient will make you appreciate your journey.

WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO

This is a sad reality especially for those people that were lazy but wanted to change. What you don't want to do is what you need to do, you heard me right. I will repeat again WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO. Stop listening to people who were always talking about "do what you love" and just doing what you do. It is not explained very well, some part of it is right and some part of it is wrong. You can't be just doing what you love to do and be successful. what if you love drinking beers everyday, will it make you successful? What if you want to simply play PS4 the whole day, will it make your life better?

The human being's mind will always look for easy rout, it will not engage itself to stressful activities unless you force it. That is the reason why you tend to eat a lot of junk foods instead of running for a few kilometers. That is the reason why you prefer to watch tv first instead of doing your assignments and solving difficult problems. And it is also the main reason why the number of successful people is lesser than the number of people who fail, being successful is harder than being a failure. There are lots of stress that you need to face in order to become successful and most people were afraid of facing stress.

So then, what are you doing now? of course you love it because you wouldn't do it if you don't love it. Even if you say that you hate your work and it really sucks, you still love it, you just hate to admit it, you are forced to love it because you needed money. Even if you say you are just doing it to support your family, oh common... there is still a little love on that work, if you totally hate it one hundred percent then you will immediately leave even if your family gets hungry.

If you want to change your life and you really mean it you must look for the things that you don't want to do or you are afraid to do. If you are an unemployed bastard and you want to change your life, what is the thing that you are afraid the most? be honest. I know it will be making a resume and looking for a job, most people who were unemployed for years hates to do it, they even vomit if they heard the words "resume" and "application". It hurts but it is the truth, what they love to do is chilling, relaxing, looking like a bum, pretending to be a bad ass person, pretending to have something they don't have, drinking a lot, waiting for financial support, watching TV 20 hours a day. Those are the things that they love to do and the things that they need to stop doing so they can change their lives.

If you are repeatedly being abused by your partner and the abusing goes heavier and heavier everyday, what do you think you need to do? of course leave him. Even if it hurts because you love him so much and you cannot live without him as you repeatedly saying everyday, you still need to leave him. Because that is the right thing to do, don't wait for the make believe fantasy that someday he will change. He is abusing you everyday for years and that is already his habit so he cannot change anymore. Even if it hurts, even if you don't want to do it LEAVE HIM.

If you are dreaming of at least cutting several pounds in your fat ass body, what do you think you need to do? be honest because lies won't serve you in the future. Just be completely honest and face the reality, what is it? Of course eating healthy foods, of course doing some exercises everyday. Those things were really hard for you because you don't have the habits of doing it but even if you don't want to do those things, those things are what you needed to do. It is only difficult in the beginning but if you force yourself to build those habits then you will get the results that you want.

You only don't want to do the things that you need to do in the beginning. Once you pass the boundary of laziness, procrastination and doubt and once you build some little momentum then you will eventually change little by little. You will enjoy your progress and you will become somebody else. Your personality will change, your life will change, you will see a transformation in you that you can't even imagine when your life is still on the wrong direction.

YOU DON'T EVEN NEED TO MAKE AN ARGUMENT

I know this also happens to you, when you are caught in a nonsense argument where you are trying to prove yourself, where you are trying to protect yourself and make a statement that you are the one who is right. This happens a lot to me, I am making the people around me believe that I am telling the truth and they were the ones whose wrong. It also come to the point where fist fight almost happened because the two different sides doesn't want to admit their faults.

The point is this, what did you get by proving yourself right? what did you get by embarrassing the person you are arguing with? did you become a millionaire? did you make your life better by winning the fight? did the world gave you some respect and put you in history books? did you become smarter? what benefits did you get? NOTHING.

If you know honestly in yourself that you are right then there is no need to make an argument, there is no need to make them realize that you are the better person. What difference does it make? You are just wasting time if you will argue with people who were close minded and cannot accept their faults. The argument will only get bigger and it will never end, no one will win.

If you are caught in a situation where you must argue with somebody to correct his mistakes, just walk away and forget that person. It is not that you are scared or something, you just know that you are the one whose right and you don't want to waste your time for that person. You know you have some other things to do that will make your life better so you don't want to fight with that person anymore.

A lot of people will not admit that they were wrong even if they knew it because they don't want to get embarrassed. They will still fight for their case and pretend that they were the righteous ones. They don't want anybody to step on their ego.

Arguing with someone will only make you feel bad so what is the point in doing it? Let him win and let him celebrate with his stupidity. After all, you know and it is true that you are the one whose right so just being quiet and walking away is not a big deal. You are just doing the right thing because you don't want to level down with people who were acting like they were judges of the supreme court and they cannot make a single mistake.

The ones who just keep quiet and backdown in an argument are the smarter ones because they don't want to engage in any kind of trouble, they have better things to do and they don't want to waste their energy on something that is not worth fighting for. They value their time so much and they want to use it on other more useful things.

INSTEAD OF SPREADING IT WHY DON'T YOU DO IT?

Are you this kind of person who loves quotes, inspirational stories, motivational stuffs etc.? are you so hook in it and you love to spread it to the world? Are you sharing what you've learned to your friends and families? and what is your purpose by sharing those stories? you wan't to change them?, yet you are not changing yourself.

I know you've been a fan of such pages, websites or video channels and you want to actualized what you've learn from those sources. I know you spend hundreds of hours learning the messages from those sources and you really connect with it.

If you are motivated by those stuffs then why don't you do it instead of sharing it? You acquire those knowledge to test it if it will work and not to just feel good about it. You've seen a lot of stuffs and you've learn a lot of things then it is time for you to test it and see if it is really true.

Test if working hard and focusing will really give you results. Test if being disciplined and having the right attitude will make you successful. You have to test it and apply it to yourself before you talk about it to the world. People will not believe in you if you are spreading some news that you didn't even try for yourself. I know you want to change the world by sharing what you've discovered but you have to change yourself first and apply what you've learned.

And besides, why are you sharing something that you haven't test for yourself?. You believe in something even if you haven't tried it and see if it works? You believe on those powerful stories about underdogs who made it in life by simply working hard and believing in themselves? You believe in those miraculous comebacks that was fueled by motivation and burning desire to win? Why? did you see it in your own naked eyes?

Don't spread some news until you try it and prove that it works because some people will ask you if it is really true and if it works for you. Some people will look for evidence and you need to show them some. Some people will mock you and make fun of you because they think you are crazy to believe in impossible things. And once they know that you have no proof that those stories are real, they will mock you even more, the mockery will be harder this time. So stop teaching them and start showing them.

You're already pumped up, you're already motivated so now the next step should be executed. And stop telling me that you still need to see some more videos and read some inspirational stories before you start. Your mind is already polluted with those stuffs, you're already an addict to motivation so start now and become the inspiration itself. Show them that you're not just patronizing motivation instead you're also a part of motivation. Show them that you also have a story of your own and you are the star of that story.

LOOK AT YOUR PAST

Look at your picture when you were so slim, it will inspire you to work hard and become slim again. Remember the days when you were on a strict diet, you are eating the right foods and you are exercising like a beast. How does it feel like? Look at your perfect body and feel envy with the past. Envy your past because it has the body that you want and the present has the body that you dislike.

Look at your past when you have a lot of money and you were so successful. How does your face looks like while counting big bucks? How does your body language looks like while buying the things that you love? what is your attitude towards your job? What are your habits and techniques while you are still succeeding? Look at your past, study it and compare it to your present situation. Don't feel guilty because you are doing bad now, don't feel guilty because you will discover that you take your life for granted and that is the reason why you are failing.

Everyone says forget your past and move one so you will have a better future. Yes it is true that you should forget past but only the bad ones, keep the good ones and remember its details. The good things from the past will serve as a reference to remind you how to become good again and successful again. Remember all the tiniest details from the time that you were still doing good and repeat all of it now. Repeat the same process when you were still thriving, never miss a single detail.

Sometimes as you grow old and you become adjusted to your environment, you will forget the things that made you successful. It is because you are just going with the flow and you don't want to oppose it. Your life is being dictated by fate and you are not doing anything about it. You need to look at your past and find what are the useful things that you can pull from it.

If you want to become successful again and you don't know what to do anymore just bring the past back. Look for the simple habits, routines and beliefs that once made you successful and bring it back to the present. You can tweak it a little bit and add some positive knowledge that you acquire in the present.

Also look at the people around you from the past, who were the people that helps you to become successful? who are those people who pushes you to the top? remember them and join them again. Study what did you do with those people and study the activities that you engaged with them.

Success is just repetition, if you are not succeeding now then maybe you are not repeating the things that made you successful because you thought that you were already great. Look at your past, repeat the things that brought you to the top.

PURSUE YOUR DREAMS IF YOU ARE READY TO SUPPORT YOURSELF

This article is dedicated to dreamers who were pursuing their dreams and not giving up on it but there are some important things that is making their journey very difficult.

If you are pursuing a big dream or if your dream is too difficult when you are making realistic judgement about it then there will be lot of hindrances that will stop you from getting your dream. One of this hindrances is your parents. If you are dreaming about becoming an ultimate fighter, a great musician, an actor or pursuing a popular sports such as basketball or football then your parents will be the ones whose gonna stop you. It is simply because they have a realistic expectations for you. They want you to become an engineer, a doctor, a lawyer or any profession that is possible to get by simply studying hard.

There is nothing wrong with that, they just want you to have a bright future, a stable future and they simply don't want to see you fail. You have no choice but to follow your parents because they were the ones who were providing you the means to study everyday. They support you and love you so just follow them. The path that they offer you is a good path, the only difference is you don't like it and you want to travel to the other path.

Now here is the thing, if you still want to pursue your own dream then you have to make sure that you can support yourself because if not then just do what is being asked of you. Follow your parents and live a peaceful life. Make sure you can feed yourself, buy clothes for yourself and shelter yourself because if you make a stand and disobey your parents they might force you to leave your house for being disobedient. And you will have to choose, is it comfort and staying in your house and finishing your studies or leaving and pursuing your own dream?

Now, if you choose your parents' dream for you and you stay in your house, you have no choice but to finish your studies. You have no choice but to follow their rules and set aside your personal dreams. Once you finish your studies and you can support yourself then it is time for you to pursue your personal dreams. You already fulfilled your parents' dreams and now you have a lot of time for yours, at the same time you also have the means to support your own life so there is no pressure to you anymore.

That is why education is also good, you will have an assurance that you can survive everyday because it is easier to find a job. You will have a second option if your personal dream isn't happening yet.

Finish your studies fast. In order for you to pursue your personal dream, you have to finish your studies fast because time is so fast and you might be left behind by other people who were pursuing the same dream as yours. And also by finishing your studies fast you will be able to start young pursuing your dreams and you will have a lot of time doing it.

There are lots of dreamers in this planet who were arrogant but have a weak will. They leave their parents and pursue their unrealistic dreams but when the going gets tough they come back crawling to their parents' house and ask for forgiveness.

Make a stand and pursue your dreams right away if you really believe that you can reach it and if you are willing to die for it. Don't fall into different stories about rebels who succeed by following their intuition. It is possible but you have to make a lot of sacrifices, can you do that? Are you willing to endure hunger, pain and living alone? are you willing to take all the critics and hatred of your parents? if you can then what are you waiting for? pack your bags and shoot for the stars.