IF WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS BORING, IT'S UP TO YOU HOW TO ADD FUN TO IT

Sometimes if we are doing the same things over and over again it will come to a point where the fun is no longer evident anymore. Just like me I worked as an encoder for 4 years. The first 3 years was full of fun, it was very challenging, I was pumped up. Everyday was like a new day, I love the working environment, I love my co-workers and I felt like I am a real professional because I am working at the office with tables and computers in my surrounding. The nightmare begins on my 4th year, I am no longer feeling my job, the thrill is gone, I begin to hate going to office, I am very lazy at work, I often use my sick leaves even though it is not needed. The passion is gone, things got heavier for me. Days have passed and things got worse for me, my production is very low, I found myself always sleeping at my desk luckily I was not caught or maybe my supervisor was just kind.

The happiest day for me is the payday other than that all day is bad. As the days go by I am getting lazier and lazier. I am finding solutions but the solutions aren't finding me. Sometimes resignation is running inside of my head but I can't do that because I need money.

Thing have changed when a motivator visits our office, here name is Marge. I cannot remember her last name but she was awesome. She thought me a lot and her story was inspiring. She told me that if you are not enjoying your present situation change it, if you are not enjoying your work anymore leave it. BUT... Not all things are easy, yes it is good to take risks but what if you have no money? You can't just leave your work and hope that things will go on your way. If you will leave your work you must have savings to survive for at least 7 months. Money to compensate your food, bills, needs of the family, allowance for applying for a new job etc.

Never listen to people who say "If you don't love your job leave it". This phrase is incomplete, I say "leave your job if you can leave it and not getting screwed up". Some people were fooled by a lot of cinderella stories out there where a person leaves his job enters a real estate business or some kind of an MLM scheme and then BOOM! gets rich in just one month.

If you leave your job and you don't have enough money while looking for a new job then you're in big trouble. I know a lot of people who fall into this trap where they dream but they don't have a backup plan. They are so proud that they will leave their job that they consider hell. Then months have passed and you will hear the news that they are struggling to find a new job and they are planning to comeback to the company that they leave. What a shame!

You can change any situation in your life, may it be changing the job, changing friends, changing home

DON'T FORGET THAT YOU HAVE A CHOICE

Don't forget that you can choose whatever you want. You can choose your friends whom you will trust. You can choose what color of clothes you want to wear. You can choose if you will be mad at something or not. You can choose if you want to be happy everyday or worry at things that really don't matter. You can choose if you want to move and try something or just procrastinate and think what might be the outcome if you try.

You can choose if you want to be strong or be commanded by someone who is stronger than you. You can choose if you want to have more or settle for less. You can choose the right mental attitude or be ruled by your own mind. You can choose if you want to feel rich or feel poor. You can choose your goals and go for it or not. Life is a choice really, we can choose our actions, emotions, perspective in life and we can choose to be positive or negative. We can choose our lifestyle and live the life we want. Life is a matter of choice so choose the right things and right thinking.

DON'T BE AFRAID TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING

He is a champion, he is big, they are rich, they are elite, they've been doing that for years, I am just a rookie. I don't know how to do that, he is strong, she is beautiful, she is smart, it's too big for us, lets stop dreaming, they are the children of God, he is so fast, we can't win, he is a black belter, he is the best, he is the greatest. Our levels are not the same, she is rich, they are powerful, I have no name, I am just an ordinary poor boy from province, I am just a cowboy.

Are the words above have came across in your mind before? Just remember that people around you is just another human being who is also immortal, feeling pain and will not live forever.

Are you always shy trying to talk to your crush? does your armpits always sweat when you try to approach a beautiful girl? This is normal but always bear in mind that beautiful people are not perfect, they have insecurities too, sometimes they are more insecure than average looking people. They always wanted to look good, they feel inferior if they have no makeups or thick powder in their face. All human beings have insecurities and you are one of them so beautiful individuals are not different from other people, they also wanted to feel appreciated and they also feel threatened when there is a more beautiful person beside them.

Are you scared to challenge a champion?, are you scared to compete against a team or a person who has a big name? Why? those are just human beings too, they get tired, they have fears and they have flaws on their game. They don't have super powers so don't get fazed when you see them. Besides, if you know in yourself that you prepare for the game or fight you don't have anything to be afraid of, what if your opponent is a champion but did not train so hard? See, you already have a big advantage, don't be afraid of names or looks, be afraid if you did not prepare.

We as human beings, it is our natural instincts to get scared if we see people who we think are better than ourselves. Stop doing it, everyone is even, everyone gets scared, everyone gets insecured. Confidence and hardwork will separate you from the pack, its not the names or accomplishments, it is your preparation and knowing who you are.

WE ARE NOT IMMORTALS

Never act like you have all the time in the world to make your dreams come true. Don't feel like you will live forever so you can delay all the tasks needed to be done for the realization of your goals. No one in this world is immortal so if you wanted to do something do it now! Never wait for the right time to get started or the right feelings to be felt to get motivated.

We are only humans and not Gods so we only have limited time in this world. Sickness is all in the mind and never use it as an excuse to pause for a while. Stop using delaying tactics so you can feel better, it will make you feel even worse and weaker. Stop questioning your progress, never doubt your potential because no one can be as talented as you if you keep on honing your craft. The average life span of a single human being is only 70 years old and at the age of 50 above you should already rest and enjoy the fruits of your labor. So if you are already 30 years old now you only have 20 years to make your dreams happen.

 Never think that it is a huge amount of time, it is not. You will be shocked that you are already 35, 40 and so on and has nothing on your pocket. Life is so short, we are not immortals to party every night and never grew old. Living life to the fullest is not merely by just partying, eating all the foods you want, climbing mountains, going to different places, doing cool things etc. Adventure is not just by having fun, it also means you are tying to achieve greatness or you are taking risk to know how big you can be and how strong you can be. If you wanted to become a singer, a basketball player, an Olympian or a millionaire you better start now, leave all your worries behind and do all the necessary steps whole heartedly.

APPRECIATE EVERY SECOND

To make life easier appreciate every second. Even if you are in pain appreciate that you are still breathing. Even if you are hungry appreciate that you already ate yesterday or last week. Even if you fail appreciate that you learn something. Even if you are so stressed appreciate that you are still moving to get the job done. Even if you are criticized or embarrassed or hated appreciate that people still noticed you, that you stand out, that you are something to talk about. Even if you have no money appreciate that money is not your only happiness.

Appreciate everything, appreciate life, this will make your life easier, this will change your perspective, this will give you a positive momentum and belief that you are still lucky despite of your circumstances in life.

There is nothing wrong with nothingness, there is nothing wrong with pain, it is part of our life. Our life is not complete without any little ugliness so appreciate every second, appreciate everything, life is good, you are lucky, you are blessed just change your perspective and you will know that life is simple and easy.

CHOOSE YOUR BREAKING POINT

Everyone will reach his breaking point at any stage of his life. It is either a breaking point where you cannot stand the suffering anymore so you give up, you free yourself from pain so you choose to end it and travel an easier path or it is either a breaking point where you tell yourself  "enough is enough, I don't want to live this kind of life anymore so I will do whatever it takes to change my life no matter how hard the consequences will be". In other words the breaking point can be positive because you made a decision to continue and ignore all the pain or it is negative because you don't want to feel the pain anymore so you give up.

You can choose your breaking point, your situation will not dictate your breaking point no matter how hard your situation is. Your mind and will decide whether when and how to choose your breaking point, if you choose a positive breaking point then your focus will become more serious, your actions will become more relevant to your goal, you will become more eager because you cannot stand your situation anymore and all you want to do is improve it. If you choose a negative breaking point such as giving up, you will be relieve for a moment but this is a decision that you will regret forever in your life. There will be times when you will tell yourself "what could have happen if I did not give up?" and that is the most hurtful consequence when you choose a negative breaking point.

So when you are in a situation where you have to choose a breaking point, what would that be? My recommendation is choose your breaking point wisely, make a decision where you will not have any regrets and make a decision where you can be proud of no matter what will happen in the future.

STRAIGHT FORWARD

When a client tells you to do something do it, forget about how you feel, forget about other tasks such as moaning the grass, washing the dishes, sweeping the floor etc. just do it, you will find some time for other activities later. If you need to eat but you don't have appetite just eat your food, be straight forward, you will enjoy your meal once you begin to appreciate it and take it slowly.

If you need to pay your bills just pay it, don't wait until you get disconnected from their services. If you need to visit your grandma or mama that you haven't seen for a long time just do it, forget about the time that you think will be wasted, it's not a waste of time to give some time for your love ones.

Be straight forward, if you need to cut down some weight just do it, walk, climb, run just move, forget about being tired, forget about whether you are losing some weight or not, just move, just do something.

Always be straight forward, if you need to do something important just do it, forget about your emotions whether you feel good or not, forget about the other tasks, just be at the moment, do one task at a time, be straight forward and your goals will be attracted straight forward to you too.

STOP APOLOGIZING IF NOT NEEDED

Most of us if will apologize immediately if we thought that we hurt somebody or made a mistake. I think this is not being humble instead it is being weak. If you are not sure that you hurt somebody or you made a mistake stop apologizing. It will show that your character is soft and you don't want to look mean or nasty.

Some people will take this as an advantage and will spoil your soft character. If you made an impression that you are too gentle and you always wanted to be liked then you are also telling everyone that you can easily be commanded and you are submissive. One thing that you must learn in life is that you should not be apologizing every now and then, apologize if you really hurt someone but if not then don't. It is ok to be good, it is ok to be gentle but being kind and scared are two different things. Be bold, be confident, portray a tough self image.

IF YOU REALLY BELIEVE

If you really believe then you will not listen to others.
If you really believe, you will take an accountability for yourself.
If you really believe, you will push yourself to the limits.
If you really believe, nothing can bother you.
If you really believe, you will never care about mistakes.
If you really believe, you will do whatever it takes to accomplished your goals.
If you really believe, you will not make any excuses.
If you really believe, you will get motivated everyday.
If you really believe, you will not look back instead you will just move forward.
If you really believe, you will risk everything you have.

IF YOU REALLY BELIEVE, YOU WILL BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE IN YOUR FEARS.

LEARNING IS FOR EVERYONE

If a 78 year old guy is studying law and wants to become an attorney, why does a lot of people laughs at him or raise an eyebrow? If a former prostitute says she wants to go back to school and finished her studies, why does someone will judge her? If an average student says he wants to study in Harvard, why does his classmates laughs at him? If you want to study how to cook or how to sing, why do you hesitate to start?

Learning is for everyone, no matter what status in life do you stand or how bad is your past, you can still study and learn something that will help your life. If you can read and listen then you can learn anything you want even if you are not intelligent. Even blinds and deaf can learn so you too can learn. Brains are like muscles, the more we put information on it the bigger it will grow. Never mind if people are laughing at you or mocking you, if you want to learn that means you want to progress. Learning can be done in different ways, you can learn by asking, by observing, by trying or by formal education.

 Learning is fun because it gives you a boost of confidence and you feel smart when you learn, and the more you feel smart, the more confident you will be. Imagine if you've learn a lot in just a year, can you imagine what your life would be? If you already learn what somebody wants to learn and he is asking you some tips or advice, be generous, tell him everything you know and everything he wants to know. I can't hardly understand why some people is afraid of learning, maybe because at first you will look stupid and ignorant. But you will be ignorant forever if you don't embrace the uncomfortability of learning.

Some people says that they are old enough and know everything they need in life so they are not studying anymore. This philosophy is bad. A man should learn everyday so that he keeps on growing everyday. Some people says that learning is only for high class people or for white collar employees. This philosophy is bad too, learning is for everyone and nobody can tell you to stop studying something because it is not right for you. Never be shy if you want to learn something, be shy if you are pretending to be smart but deep inside you know nothing.