DESTROY THE NORMS IF IT IS STOPPING YOUR FROM EXPANDING
Something that powers your mind. It is about motivation, self discipline, mental toughness, success, self development, achieving goals, techniques and ways to give you advantages in life.
Dec 29, 2015
PROBLEMS MADE YOU YOU
Problems made you you. It is not the easy life that made you, it is your problems. Are you gonna move and look for a job if money is handed to you everyday? Are you gonna work extra hard if your family has unlimited supplies of foods everyday? Are you gonna be extra motivated if your life is very comfortable and you don't feel the need for a change? DEFINITELY NOT.
There is a little bit of stress and a little bit of pain if we are creating something special especially if we are creating ourselves. You cannot just change without feeling a little bit uncomfortable. Problems and challenges will arise if you will transition from one human being to another human being. Challenges will strengthen your character. Have you seen an individual who did something great that didn't experience failure? If life were very easy for them then they will not find ways how to become great. They will just relax and take life for granted.
An easy life will only create mediocre life and nothing more than that. Those people who didn't experience any kind of problems remain the same and they will never expand.
It is true that the harder the battle the sweeter the victory. Characters were revealed during hard times. Champions were built under pressure. If you are experiencing some kind of a problem right now don't be depressed or feel unmotivated. Once you face that problem and start working on it then your new identity will be revealed. If you face your problems and work on it until it is solved then you're a winner, if you don't move and just let your problems pass by then there is no new identity that was built in you, you will remain a loser and whiner forever.
WORKING WHILE WORKING ON YOUR DREAMS
You have a shitty job and you really don't like it and you are dreaming of a job that has a good pay. You can't just leave your job and look for a better job. You can't just follow what motivators says. "TAKE A RISK, FOLLOW YOUR HEART". Yeah this words are true but you must have a plan to ensure success. You have to work while working on your dreams.
You've got to have money to support your bigger dream. You can't just jump in and be an actor, a basketball player, a musician or entrepreneur. You have to have money to support your bills, food expenses, transportation expenses etc. You are lucky if there are people who will support you but what if there is none?
Work while working on your dreams. Have a source income that will support your financial needs. It can be a part time job in fast food, call center, office, sales etc. Do the part time job seriously but don't get attached with it. Sometimes your dreams are wiped away by the job that gives you money. You get satisfied with what you are earning and you forgot to look back at the bigger picture.
It is much better if you have something that will make your life easier, something that will serve as a spine of your dreams. Let's be realistic, it is so hard to move without money. It is hard to move and follow your dreams if you are worrying about paying bills and other responsibilities. So work while working on your dreams but always keep the main thing the main thing. Take the job that gives you money seriously but take your dreams more seriously.
And even if you are already earning good or big from your part time job don't ever forget your dreams. Remember that you are only working to make your real dreams come true. If you have already enough savings and you think you can pursue your dream without doing another job then go ahead. Pursue your dream full time, be relentless and never look back.
Dec 27, 2015
DIESEL MENTALITY
Well of course everyone wants to be successful, everyone has a dream. Who in this world doesn't want to become big? Some people will tell you that they are satisfied but in reality they are looking for more. The problem is they want to become SUCCESSFUL SO FAST. They are not willing to take the process.
Growth, expansion, progress and success cannot be achieved by just jumping in to your destination. It is achieved by starting small and then adding up and adding up and adding up until you reach that certain level. It is like a diesel that is slow to heat at first then when it heats up the momentum continues to grow stronger and stronger.
It is ok to be slow at first, not making a huge progress at first because the moment you find your momentum then the journey will become easier, more enjoyable and smooth sailing.
Be the guy who is ok without getting any attention, praises and perks because those things will show in the end once you get better. Be the guy who is ok with gaining the tiniest progress everyday. Appreciate your own effort even if you are not seeing any results yet. Have fun stumbling around, have fun not knowing what to do.
Because once you get the momentum, once you heat up, once you pass the learning curve...It's showtime, nobody can stop you, YOU WILL LEAD AND YOU WILL SUCCEED.
THE POWER OF RESTARTING
I don't know what it is but there is a power behind restarting, maybe it is because the energy you have is stronger or you have a fresher mind and body. Maybe it is because you are more motivated and you know much better than the first time. Or maybe it is because you already calculated the right amount of effort and the right amount of sacrifice that is needed to succeed.
Come to think of your PC, your PC that is struggling to operate right, your PC that has a lot of bugs and a lot of weird errors that are popping up every now and then. Your PC that is very slow and cannot help you in your work. Restart your PC and see what happens... It operates better than its old state right? the bugs were not fixed but it operates better. It is the magic of restarting, it works on different fields of life. Restarting works on goals, education, business etc.
When you fail at something then you restart how do you feel? you feel stronger right? you feel more motivated and more hungry. It is because you prepare harder, you already knew your mistakes and you don't care about failing anymore.
Just restart when you fail. Restart when you fail in your own business, restart when you fail at exam, restart when you fail at getting the championship that you want. Restart when you have an ugly love life. Restart and comeback stronger. Restart and do better this time.
There is a reason why you are restarting, it is because you want to get it. You don't want to quit and you want to prove to yourself that you can do it no matter what. Restarting has no limits, you can restart as many times as you want. You can restart as fast as you want without waiting for something.
Restarting is more effective when you restart immediately after failure. It is because the momentum is still there, the hungriness is still there and the willingness to have a sweet revenge is still there.
If you are planning to restart after a long break then you may not restart anymore. You will be satisfied of the results and your hungriness to do better will die. Restart while you still have momentum, restart while you still have the fire. Never wait for the perfect moment... just make the moment perfect.
Dec 26, 2015
JUST LOOK FOR SOMETHING TO SQUEEZE
Everyone of us will face a big challenge at some point of our lives. Those challenges will make our mind confused and stop thinking the right away. Those challenges will tear us down and make us stagnant.
If you find yourself caught in a situation where you cannot think the right way then don't think, just act. Look for something to squeeze, what I mean is just make a small positive action even if the action is just producing a little progress or no progress at all.
If you need money then just do something that will give you money. May it be selling old books, selling things that you don't need, doing some part time jobs, back riding on your friend's business etc. Do something that will put you in a position of earning money. It doesn't matter if the money involved is big or small, what matters is you are doing something to earn something. There is no excuse that will be accepted here, there are trillion ways to earn money and if you can't think one then maybe you are the dumbest person in the world.
If you are in the middle of your thesis and it seems like the progress is very slow or you feel like you can't do something right. Just look for something to do. May it be preparing the clothes that you will wear on the presentation, buying the folder that will be use for the paper works, typing the data that were ready etc. look for something related to your thesis and work on it. Squeeze something, there is a juice waiting for you.
Any step that you take that is related to the task that you are doing is helpful as long as it is a positive step. You may think that those steps were not helpful but they are helpful. A step that is related to your goal or task will give you momentum. In the end you will know that if you did not take those steps you will not finish what you have accomplished.
If you need money then just do something that will give you money. May it be selling old books, selling things that you don't need, doing some part time jobs, back riding on your friend's business etc. Do something that will put you in a position of earning money. It doesn't matter if the money involved is big or small, what matters is you are doing something to earn something. There is no excuse that will be accepted here, there are trillion ways to earn money and if you can't think one then maybe you are the dumbest person in the world.
If you are in the middle of your thesis and it seems like the progress is very slow or you feel like you can't do something right. Just look for something to do. May it be preparing the clothes that you will wear on the presentation, buying the folder that will be use for the paper works, typing the data that were ready etc. look for something related to your thesis and work on it. Squeeze something, there is a juice waiting for you.
Any step that you take that is related to the task that you are doing is helpful as long as it is a positive step. You may think that those steps were not helpful but they are helpful. A step that is related to your goal or task will give you momentum. In the end you will know that if you did not take those steps you will not finish what you have accomplished.
Nov 13, 2015
DON BE AFRAID TO SAY I CAN DO IT
If an opportunity knocks on your door and the big boss ask you if you can do the job just say YES. No hesitation no more doubting just say yes. Don't be afraid to say you can do it. Even if you are not sure that you can do it just say you can. But make sure that once you get the job you will do everything to do it and make it happen.
People are so afraid to answer boldly if they can do a certain thing. They are doubting themselves, belittling themselves. If you are doubting yourself then you have no love for yourself. Once an opportunity knocks always say YES, let it enter to your life and don't let it go away.
If you are in the field of banking and you know in yourself you can do computation, once the boss ask you if you can move to the next level and present you the coverage of your suppose to be new role just say YES. It is ok to get overwhelmed by the new and larger task, it is ok to struggle in the beginning, eventually you will find a way how to do it in the long run. You can adjust and adopt as the days go by.
But make sure that you know some basics about the job that was asked for you. You cannot say you can operate a dying patient if all you know is kill some zombies in a sick video game. Make sure you are serious about the business that is being presented and you are not joking around. Make sure that once you accepted the new role, you will not crumble or breakdown when the going gets tough.
It is ok to say yes even if you are not sure that you can do it because you don't even know if you cannot do it. You don't even know if what you are doing is wrong. You are in a 50 50 situation so take the risk, have the confidence to accept the larger role and give your 100.01 percent.
YOUR TIMELINE IS DIFFERENT FROM THEIR TIMELINE
I am not promoting shortcuts here I am just trying to write an article to reduce the scarcity that you feel when you cannot progress or to lessen the feeling of being overwhelmed when you are pursuing a goal or developing a skill.
If you see someone who succeed for just a short period of time don't get jealous, don't try to emulate the timeline that he had. Everyone has his own timing, your time will arrive, nobody knows when it will arrive but all you can do is speed up the process, again SPEED UP not shortcut. Taking shortcuts and speeding up is very different.
When I say speed up what you can do here is work harder, double the effort, work smarter. Those are the things that you can do to speed up the process. You should not take shortcuts because that shit will never help you. You will feel successful for a very short period of time that is why it is called shortcuts. If you take a shortcut to success your time of being successful will also become short.
And besides the more you feel that your goal takes longer time to reach, the harder the situation will become. Forget about the timeline just carry on to what you are doing and make sure to improve everyday. Improving everyday will make the timeline of reaching your goal shorter.
Trust the process, trust that your time will come. Don't feel depressed or upset when you are not seeing any results yet. don't ever stop because if you stop your timeline will get longer.
Nov 12, 2015
TAKE OFF THOSE EXPENSIVE ACCESSORIES
Really? 375 dollars worth of basketball shoes? $100 Basketball Jersey? Most of you are faking greatness nowadays. You will buy expensive accessories, shirts, shoes just to show that your lifestyle is active and you're a great athlete. You will try to pretend that you are fit and has money to buy those expensive things but the reality is you're a broke son of a bitch.
You will try to cover your inability to exercise and become great with those fancy things that will never contribute to your progress. Most of you are blinded by these expensive things, it tricks your mind. You got pumped up when you buy that band with watch and lights, on and off. I don't know how do you call it. You got pumped up by it thinking that after you bought it you will run 100 kilometers a day.
You got pumped up by the new edition of of a popular shoe brand, you think that it will contribute to your skill and you will become a great athlete. Or maybe you are just faking everyone that you are great because you have those things. Well at least you are a great pretender.
Sometimes your focus is on those things and not on striving to become great anymore. Those stuffs cannot help you, those are just things to make you look good in the eyes but bad in reality. Buy those things if you are already good and not to just look good.
I am not saying that those things are bad, it may help you in some ways but you still have to prove to everyone that you're not just a flashy person with expensive things. Invest in yourself first then decorate yourself if you are already great.
IT SHOWS IN YOUR LEVEL OF HUNGRINESS
A lot of people say that they want something but they are not willing to pay the price. They say they want to change their lives. They want cars, they want big houses, they want millions but their actions are not congruent to their dreams.
They want a brand new car but they only work for 8 hours a day and the more sad thing is they are doing the wrong work. How can you buy a new car if you are only earning money that is enough to feed your family and provide their basic needs? If you want something big you should also do big, find another work that will give you a bigger income, it doesn't matter if you have worked for ten years for your recent company, we are talking about realizing dreams here and your company cannot give you the dreams that you want so leave that company now. If they offer you a bigger salary cool if not pack your bags and never look back. Send your boss a resignation paper and accept what his decision will be. Its either he give you an increase to keep you or let you go. Make him choose.
Hungry people doesn't care about the consequences that may happen when they take risks, they only look for the bigger picture and nothing lesser than that. If you are not that hungry then you will be satisfied for what you have, you will not take risky actions that may put you in a more difficult situation.
If you are not scared it means you are not hungry because only people who are hungry can stand being scared and still shoot for their dreams. If you feel comfortable it also means you are not hungry because hungry people always do the things that are uncomfortable to take them one step closer to their ambition.
It will show in your level of hungriness. Hungry people do things that normal people can't do. They do things that are irrational, they do things that doesn't make sense to normal people. Even an opportunity that seems to be impossible to give them benefit they will take it.During bad weather they will show up, during the times that they have fever they will show up, during the times when they have no sleep they will still show up, during the times when everybody is relaxing they will still grind. Again this is very simple, if you are comfortable it only means you are not hungry.
Nov 11, 2015
THE RIGHT TIME TO FEEL PITY FOR SOMEONE
The word pity is not being used properly nowadays. People use it to make excuses, people use it to get what they want by simply making their self look like a victim. The question is when do we must pity someone? The answer is when he cannot MOVE ANYMORE. Yes that is the only time we must give sympathy to another person. If he cannot move that simply means he maybe dead or he was in a coma or paralyzed by a dangerous disease.
If someone can still move and still in the proper mindset then we must not give pity to him because he can still change his life. He can still turn things around the only problem is he is being dependent, he is making himself look like a human being that has no hope. He just wait for someone's help and if he didn't get it what he will do is cry in the corner and make dramatic antics.
Stop giving sympathy to someone that didn't earn it. If he can still move then he has the power. The only thing is he uses his power to make excuses and attract negative things into his life.
Anyone can change his life only if he stop making excuses, blaming everybody, blaming the government and stop thinking that the world owes him shit. Stop playing the pity party because it will only work for one time but it will not change your life.
The word "Pity" is now widely abused by lazy individuals who are just very good in making dramas that can benefit them. Never fall into this trap. It is not that you are being selfish or cruel but you should be very selective when it comes to helping people. Help people that truly deserve help, like people who were mentally ill, people that are dying. Never help individuals who were strong as a carabao but cannot even use their strength to apply for a new job or take the initiative to at least change their lives a bit.
Nov 10, 2015
WHAT THEY KNOW IS NOT HARD
Some people will try to impress you because they know something, sometimes they will make the situation difficult for you because you need what they know and they are playfully testing you and making you look like stupid.
Don't fall into their trap and easily give your power to them. Those people who wants to embarrass you because they know something that you don't know are just pretending to be smart people. Real intelligent people doesn't need to show off that they are intelligent, they even help people who don't know something that they know.
It just happens that some people know what you don't know and you needed that knowledge at that moment. Don't feel down if you don't know something, it is normal that you don't know a lot of things. Not knowing something doesn't mean anything, it doesn't mean that your stupid. It just happens that you did not study that information.
Don't let anybody own you if you don't know something that they know. Never give them power to bully you. Ignore their big mouth and find that information you needed by yourself. Make a research and soon you will know that what they know are just small things.
3 BEST REASONS WHY YOU WILL NOT FAIL
A lot of people out there are giving tips on how to succeed yet there are only few people who succeed so what I am going to write is tell people why they will not fail. I will do something different so I can give another perception and change the ratio of successful people. This article talks about why you will not fail. These are proven reasons and are very effective. You will not fail if you have these reasons:
1. YOU PREPARE HARDER THAN ANYBODY ELSE - If you prepare harder than anybody else then victory is surely on your side. No need to doubt yourself, your skills will standout and they will feel the strength inside of you. You will move effortlessly and confidence is glowing in your image.
Not only in sports or any kind of combat. If you prepare harder than anybody else then you already have the gold in any kind of field may it be a bar exam, spelling bee, math bee, body building competition etc. If you prepare harder than anybody else then success is not a promise, it is a guarantee. It is a guarantee because your level is very different, you have something that they don't have and that is the strongest desire to win because only those people who prepared the hardest have the strongest desire to win. Your confidence will standout, your body language will impress the judge and your competitors will be scared of you because they are not prepared for you. They are below your level.
2. YOU HAVE THE BELIEF - If you have the belief then you will not fail, you will succeed for sure because if you have the belief then you will find a way to win. Most people even if they can do something great still fail, Why? because when the going gets tough their belief starts to fade and then they quit. They cannot see that they can win, If you really believe in something then nothing is impossible to you. You are blinded by your desire to succeed and you can do impossible things, you can do extraordinary things that a quitter will not do. You will have the endurance to keep going because your desire is fueled by your belief.
3. YOU WILL TRY AGAIN - this is the most beautiful reason. You will not fail because you will try again, failure is not the failure itself. It will only be called failure if you quit on trying. Those who keep on trying never fail because succeed is waiting for them. Failure means the inability to keep going, failure means accepting that it is not for you so if you keep on trying you will not be labelled as a failure. You will be labelled as a repeater and not a failure.
So these are the three reasons why you will not fail. If you have these three reasons then there is no reason for you to worry. Success is already in your bag so stop worrying if you will succeed or not.
Nov 9, 2015
MAKE YOURSELF A PROJECT
You've been working at different projects for different people and who does benefit this kind of action? Is it you or them? You know the answer, you maybe earning money but the growth is not that much.
Making projects for other people is not bad but your sense of purpose as a unique human being is not being used. You are being forced to follow directions, sometimes you have to do what you don't what to do and what happens next is your SOUL is weakening, your passion is dying and growth is no longer experienced.
If you are making a project for others they are the one who is growing and not you. You are just a small part of their success and your works will not be credited in the end. You've wasted a lot of time and those time will never return anymore.
The greatest project is yourself, may it be a continuous self development, pursuing a career, building a business or just setting small goals one day at a time. The greatest investment is investment for yourself and not for others. If you make yourself a project you will surely never fail because you love what you do and you can endure the obstacles that may come as you travel your own path.
If you make yourself a project you will embrace growth everyday and your happiness cannot be matched by any amount of money. You will gain more confidence and you will take pride in any amount of work that you produce. It is ok for you to fail over and over again because this project embodies your pride, soul and passion.
Making yourself a project means you are not wasting your life and you wanted to see how far can you reach and how great you can be.
This is the real meaning of life, pushing yourself to become the best version of you and travelling the journey that your heart is itching to travel.
FEEL MORE, OVERRATE YOURSELF!
What we feel is what we are. The universe agrees to how we feel. Remember the time when you feel angry and negative and you see.. all the negative people, news, events, problems were also attracted to you. But remember the time when you feel so happy and you will also remember that life is very easy, effortless and everything is a breeze. It feels like you can't do anything wrong and there is a magic going on with your life.
If you feel less you will also attract less. If you feel that you can't do big things then you will really can't do it even if you are capable of doing it.
But if you feel that you can do big things even if your capabilities and experiences are not enough eventually you will still succeed. Feel more about yourself, those who believe are those who can achieve. This is not about being over confident or cocky. Being cocky has no actions, all it can do is talk but if you are overrating yourself but you are also moving then you are in the right direction.
Overrating yourself is also a good mindset, it gives you a mental edge from your competitors. Always feel the abundance, always feel more. Feel talented, feel blessed, feel great.
If you are just a 5"5 stand like a 5"10, feel like a 5"10, if you do this you will look really tall and more confident. If you are not a good speaker in front of the public, speak anyway, talk like a professional speaker. Breathe and stand like a professional speaker. Trick your mind. Be appreciative of your performance no matter how shaky it seems to be.
If your boss asks you if you can do advance accounting answer him yes even if you can only do basic. After all you can find the solution along the way if you really want to make a good impression for him. Don't be scared to say you can do it because you don't even know if you cannot do it.
It is better to rate yourself rather than others rate you. And the best way to rate yourself is overrate yourself. It is better to become overrated than underrated. Overrated has a feeling of confidence and abundance, you feel that the whole world is on your side while being underrated has a feeling of scarcity and feeling of being treated unfairly.
Oct 29, 2015
BEING BUSY IS THE MOST UNTRUE EXCUSE
You are so busy that is why you don't have time for exercise but you have time for watching TV and not just watching you even do a movie marathon that is 20 hours straight with your obese friends that cannot even run for 23 seconds. Wow you are really so busy, you have no time because you eat popcorn so match while watching game of bones episode 72 that you already seen for 8 times.
You are so busy that is why you cannot visit your parents. I agree that you have two children but why do you have a lot of time playing poker with your amigos. You even lost 25 gran and fight with your friend because you accuse him of cheating. Then your poor mama called and asking you to visit her and what is your excuse? "Mom I am really so busy right now and I don't have money to go there, I have a lot of bills to pay". The poor mama cried but still understanding her child.
You are so busy that is why you cannot attend your child's program presentation at school then why do you have a lot of time drinking with your friends? you even come home at 5:45 am with lots of kissmarks on your neck. You spend the whole night sing karaoke with bitches and gold diggers and now you don't have time for your child? common you're better than that. Grow up man, you're not a kid anymore.
You are so busy that is why you cannot study the course that you really want then why do you have a lot of time commenting of facebook posts?, you are even caught in an argument on who is the hottest singer in town, you even fight for your idol and make derogatory comments on the other singer. You really don't have time huh?
Being busy is not an excuse, it is just a matter of prioritizing what you wanted the most. if you don't have time then why can you still move? the real meaning of no time is you literally cannot do anything other than what you are doing at the moment. There are lots of successful people out there that are so busy as presidents but still can do the things that they are committed to. Never say that you are busy that is why you cannot make it, just be honest and say "I don't wanna do it".
ADMIT THAT YOU WANT IT
Some people are holding themselves back and cannot say their pure intention. I don't know if they are acting humble or are really selling themselves short.
For example a probationary employee will tell his co employees that he really doesn't want to be a regular worker, he just want to finish his 6 month contract and have some food for Christmas. Really? is this what he really wants? Who in the world doesn't want to be a regular employee? Just because he is afraid that he will look so ambitious and arrogant then he will not tell everyone about his dream. What if his team leader hear this story and tell the manager that he doesn't want to be a regular employee? what will his future be like?
Another example is a guy who has a crush on a beautiful lady in their office, his best friend always notices him that he is staring at her. His best friend ask him if he likes that lady and then he answers "No I just like her hair and nothing more than that". Wow! what a pussy move. What will happen next is his best friend upon knowing that he really don't like the girl will confess his own feelings about the lady and wants to court her. What happened now? The power to court the girl will go to this bestfriend because his best friend is not afraid to admit his feelings. His bestfriend will even tell everyone at the office that he likes the lady so no one will court her anymore. And the poor guy who can't admit his feelings will just wait for his turn and wishes that he is the one whose the lady is dating and not his bestfriend. His fantasy was shattered and all he can do is cry at the corner of the office. What a poor guy!
If you want something admit that you like it, don't play the demure effect because only weak people do that. Show your true colors, show your true motive. If you are denying that you want something it only means that you don't want it bad enough and in that case the thing or someone that you are fantasizing will not be attracted to you.
Admitting that you want something will make it easier for you to get that thing. People will know that you want it so some of them will help you. Some of them will become a helping angel and will make your life easier. While some will get jealous at least they know that you want it and they will be afraid to steal it from you. Never be afraid to show your true intention because being true to what you want will make you get what you want.
For example a probationary employee will tell his co employees that he really doesn't want to be a regular worker, he just want to finish his 6 month contract and have some food for Christmas. Really? is this what he really wants? Who in the world doesn't want to be a regular employee? Just because he is afraid that he will look so ambitious and arrogant then he will not tell everyone about his dream. What if his team leader hear this story and tell the manager that he doesn't want to be a regular employee? what will his future be like?
Another example is a guy who has a crush on a beautiful lady in their office, his best friend always notices him that he is staring at her. His best friend ask him if he likes that lady and then he answers "No I just like her hair and nothing more than that". Wow! what a pussy move. What will happen next is his best friend upon knowing that he really don't like the girl will confess his own feelings about the lady and wants to court her. What happened now? The power to court the girl will go to this bestfriend because his best friend is not afraid to admit his feelings. His bestfriend will even tell everyone at the office that he likes the lady so no one will court her anymore. And the poor guy who can't admit his feelings will just wait for his turn and wishes that he is the one whose the lady is dating and not his bestfriend. His fantasy was shattered and all he can do is cry at the corner of the office. What a poor guy!
If you want something admit that you like it, don't play the demure effect because only weak people do that. Show your true colors, show your true motive. If you are denying that you want something it only means that you don't want it bad enough and in that case the thing or someone that you are fantasizing will not be attracted to you.
Admitting that you want something will make it easier for you to get that thing. People will know that you want it so some of them will help you. Some of them will become a helping angel and will make your life easier. While some will get jealous at least they know that you want it and they will be afraid to steal it from you. Never be afraid to show your true intention because being true to what you want will make you get what you want.
Oct 28, 2015
DON'T BE AFRAID TO SLAY THE GIANTS
A big person cut you in the line for the payment in bills what you gonna do? Tell him that you are in the line first, tell him that he is wrong and you will call a security if he didn't step back. You are not instigating a fight here, you just want to fight for your right. Don't be afraid if the person is big, you don't even know if he knows that he cuts the line, make your presence felt and let him know that he did something wrong. Just say it gently with deep and confident voice and impose your will.
You are part of the debate group and the other school you are competing against is very popular and big. You are stunned and you can't speak because you thought they were better than you. Hey chico, will that kind of mindset gonna help you? If you study enough and you work hard then there is nothing to be afraid of. Don't be afraid to exchange answers with those students, you don't even know if they study enough, just be yourself and aim for the kill. Don't go there just for the sake of going there, be the man, slay those giants.
You are competing with bigger opponents, you got scared because you lack size, you cannot move, you cannot express yourself. Keep in mind that in competition the size of the heart is what matters and not the size of the body. Just execute any single movement from your body with authority, make every movement one hundred percent bold and with full strength. Compete with anyone, slay the giants. After all their size was all in your head. If you don't focus on their size then you will not notice it.
You have a dream and your dream is so big, you got overwhelmed by the giant steps that you need to take in order for you to get there. Any big things can be conquered once divided into small steps. Don't be afraid if your dreams are so big and is frightening enough. We all got scared and it is very normal. Let your vision be the scaler of how big or small a thing is. Let yourself be the judge and always judge in favor of your side.
Oct 27, 2015
THE ONE WHO IS BEING PURSUE IS THE ONE WHO GETS TIRED
Are you pursuing something? are you getting tired? Of course NO, the one who is being pursued is the one who gets tired. If you are pursuing success then success will be the one who will get tired and will submit to you in just a matter of time, when will it submit to you? I don't know. It depends on how big the success is but one thing for sure is it will submit to you. You will never get tired because you have the motivation to keep going, you will find way and you will find the strength when you have nothing left in your tank.
Lets change the scenario vice versa. Imagine you have a goal but you are not moving, what do you think will happen? Of course you will be the one who will get tired. In this case the one who is moving is failure, failure is chasing you and you cannot escape it because you are not moving. No matter how you postpone the deadline, no matter how you believe that you can do it you will still fail in the end because the universal rule is the one who doesn't move becomes tired first.
To make the story short, the one who is not doing anything will become more tired. Have you ever watched TV for 8 hours straight but you have an important task to do? Was it relaxing? definitely not, it is more tiring because the other side of your brain wants to work but the other side is procrastinating. It is a huge conflict that makes you mentally exhausted and being exhausted mentally is a lot more pain than exhausted physically.
If you are not moving it means you are not pursuing, you are the one who is being pursued and you are the who will get tired first. Failure is pursuing you, bad things are about to happen so if you have a goal just move, just pursue no matter how difficult the task may be, just keep on going and let success becomes tired and fall into your hands.
IF YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE THAT MEANS GROWTH IS AROUND
It is very hard to admit and most people don't wanna believe this because they want an easy life. Lets face it...GROWTH ONLY HAPPENS DURING UNCOMFORTABLE SITUATIONS.
Did you ever see a body builder who didn't sore and his muscles grow? Did you ever see a successful politician who was not doubted by the public? Did you ever see an elite athlete who didn't feel any pressure at all?
When you feel uncomfortable it only means that it is an opportunity to grow so embrace it. Never back down to any challenge because those challenges are only barriers to another level. It is normal to feel bad if you want to change, it is normal to feel anxious if you are pursuing something. Never mistaken uncomfortable situations as a sign to stop or change route. just continue what you are doing and let the transformation to your personality happen. Embrace the bad emotions, learn to enjoy it and soon you will feel better.
It is like learning how to swim, you got scared of water. Water will enter your nose, ears and you will even drink water in the pool that has a lot of chlorine but you keep on moving because you want to learn. It is very uncomfortable and sometimes even scary because there will be times where you think you will drown. But you will keep on moving your feet and arms and you manage to control your breathing. Step by step you become relax and steady, the uncomfortable moments will vanish and eventually you already knew how to swim.
If you will not embrace uncomfortable moments then you will not grow, you will let an opportunity to become a better, stronger person pass. Keep in mind that uncomfortable situations will not last, it is temporary and once you overcome it the better person in you is ready to show.
Oct 26, 2015
HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOUR CHOICE IS THE RIGHT CHOICE
Most of you after making a choice will think again after the choice has been done. You will think if your choice is the right choice. You will gather data from everywhere, ask your friends or search the largest library and validate if your choice is the right one. The reality is if you have the freedom to choose then any choice is the right choice, there is no choice that is wrong if it really comes from your heart.
Example is you want to buy a car and you are choosing between automatic and manual. After choosing the automatic transmission you felt that your decision is not right because a lot of your friends are telling that manual is much better because it is faster and can save you more money because it consumes lesser gasoline. Wow! other people really know what is best for you.
And because you are valuing so much what other people say you begin to doubt if your decision is right.
Common! never stop doubting if your decision is right or not, once you made it stand for it and believe in it. What makes a choice wrong is you listen to what people say and you compare it to others.
Another example is you are about to buy a pair of shoes and the choices of colors are red and blue. You choose blue but when you see others wearing red and it fits to them perfectly and they look very good you begin to regret the choice that you did. You told yourself that you should have picked red instead.
Another big example is choosing a course in college, this has been a debate for years. Parents always play a big role when it comes to their children choosing the right course. They maybe the one who were paying the tuition fee but you are still the one who must make the decision. If you want to take fine arts but your parents wants you to take nursing just follow your heart. They may say that your decision is wrong because there is lesser money in fine arts. Don't listen to them, appreciate your choice, become the best artist that you can be and in the end you will learn that your choice is right. Don't feel guilty for not following your parents, be happy with your choice and make the best out of it.
If you will learn how to appreciate the choice that you made then you made the right choice. Never compare your choice to others because it will make you feel you made a mistake. Be happy with your choice because it is your conscious decision that time without being affected by others.
Forget about what people say that you should have pick this, you should have pick that. They will make you feel regret because they were just jealous. If they know what is good for you then why don't they do it for themselves.
Always be happy with your choice, always appreciate your choice. Never compare and never regret the decision that you made, that is the only way to know if your choice is right.
Oct 25, 2015
SUCCESS IS ALL ABOUT REMEMBERING
Success is all about remembering. When you feel lazy just remember the days that you worked like an animal, remember those countless hours of passionate work and reaping all the benefits of your effort, remember the reward that you get from working hard, remember them.
When you are in a competition and you feel scared, remember the training that you did. Remember how you perfected a move. Remember how you punish yourself to get to a certain level. Remember all of the sacrifices that you did, once you remember all of the things that you sweat, you will never be scared again.
When you are in a struggle of making money right now just remember how you come to the point where you are rich, remember the flow of your money, remember the feelings of making that big money, remember them all..
Review your script, memorize all the habits that made you successful and never forget them.
Remember all the victories that you experienced. Remember your facial expressions, body language and feelings when you are victorious. Remember them and try to apply them once again, try to emulate the older you when you are still successful.
Sometimes you almost forgot all your efforts from the past that bring you to the top so when you stumble it is really difficult for you to rise again. You worry so much and then you look for the things that went wrong, stop looking for faults instead focus on the solutions.
Stick with the basics, don't look too far ahead and make your mind cluttered. Just remember what made you successful from the past and do it again.
Oct 22, 2015
DON'T RELY ON SOMEONE'S WEAKNESS
I wrote an article before that says don't rely on someone's strength. It is an article that discusses about trusting on your own strength and never letting someone who you think is stronger than you control your life or dictate the way of your life. Relying on someone's strength will make you weak and irresponsible for your life. you will lose self reliance and you will not take your own initiative to succeed in life. The moment that someone who you are relying to fall you will also fall.
This time I will discuss about never relying on someone's weakness. What do I mean by this? This thing applies in some situations. For example you are an athlete and there is a competition scheduled for you in two weeks, what will you do? Are you going to train harder or will just train the easy way. Most athletes they will just do the things that they are doing everyday. They will run for minutes, do their routine, eat, sleep and sometimes even party because they want to reward themselves for the work that they put in. They do not work harder because they thought their opponent is weak, they hope that their opponent is not doing well on his own training. They rely on their opponent's weakness. They become relaxed and they do not train hard anymore, they train on the lower level so when the competition arrived...they lose.
Another example is a freshman college student, he is so scared because he heard some stories from his friends that are older than him that some of the professors in college were terror and are failing lazy students. He also heard that there were also some professors that are kind and are very easy to pleased. And because he is not relying on his own strength, he wishes that all of his professors are kind and very easy. He wishes that all of his professors are weak and can easily be get by giving some perks and special treatment. He rely on other's weakness so he can thrive easily, he wants an easy life so he doesn't want to encounter professors that have strong characters.
Another example is a bully, he wants to exhibit his strength by bullying some people that are weaker than him. He wants to feel superior so he just look for some people that will not fight back so he can impose his will against them. He always succeed because he never attack people that he thinks will fight back. He uses others' weaknesses to reign supreme and be the man that weak people are terrified.
Using other people's weakness to succeed is a behavior of weak individuals. People who do this has no confidence in their abilities, they do not want to compete, they don't want to work hard so they just wish that people that surrounds them are weak. What if they encounter people that are stronger than them? what will they do? very simple they will submit. If they feel that the situation is hard and uncomfortable they will immediately give up and look for easy way out.
Never expect that your opponent is weak because you train. Never expect that he didn't train and you can have an easy win. If you are expecting that your opponent is weak you will become weak too, you will not train at the higher level and you will take things lightly. The result is poor performance and mediocre showmanship of skills.
Never look for people that are weak so you can easily impose your will and your life will be easier. What if you encounter wolves on your journey? What if you encounter strong characters? They will easily eat you alive and spit on your grave. Always be prepared for strong competition, always prepare at the highest level. Have a mindset that you can adopt to any situation or beat any people along the way.
Oct 20, 2015
2 KINDS OF HARDWORK
Hardwork is often match with the word success. Yes hardwork is the most important element in success but there are lots of people that are very hardworking but are not succeeding, why is that?
It is because their hardwork is just purely hardwork, it has no other meaning. It has no content, it has no ambitions attached with it.
There are 2 kinds of hardwork, here are they:
1.) Maintenance Hardwork - This is just pure a hardwork. People do this to survive and not to thrive. People bust their assess, they outwork everyone because they are afraid that they might lose their job or their bosses might replace them. People with this type of hardwork are like robots. They just follow the protocol, tire themselves get the paycheck and repeat again. They work hard over and over again but their lives aren't changing. The good thing is they survive everyday and the live a pretty decent life. They will regret how they live their lives in the end when they can no longer work because they will feel unaccomplished and cheated by the system. There is nothing wrong if your hardwork is all about maintenance, the only not so beautiful side about this is you are not progressing, you are just working hard because you want to maintain security in your life, you don't want change and you are satisfied with what you have.
2.) Progressive Hardwork - this kind of hardwork is no different from maintenance hardwork when it comes to effort. The only thing that makes it different is this kind of hardwork has a place to go, it has a vision, everyday the person who has this wants to go somewhere. He has a dream, he is not complacent and he does something to better himself everyday. People who has this type of hardwork are usually, businessmen, artists, athletes, entrepreneurs, freelancers and people who think they deserve more than their current situation. They don't care about the money because they know they will get big money later, all they want is to become better everyday and improve their current situation a a little bit. How they improve their current situation? i don't know, they are the ones whoe know this for himself. They know it when they improve or not.
People who are engaged in progressive hardwork are chasing something, may it be money, career move or accomplishing something great. They don't work just for the sake of having to work, they work because they want to reach another level in life. They don't let any single day passed without doing anything to make their current situation better.
In other words progressive hardwork has something to do with goals and maintenance hardwork is just surviving the life.
Oct 19, 2015
DEDUCTION IS THE KEY TO EVOLUTION
A lot of people want to evolve, want to change their lives but they don't know what to do. What are you gonna do if you don't know what to do? It is very simple, decrement your activities. Having a lot of activities will make your mind unfocused, especially if you have activities that are useless and has no benefit for your life. People always thought that if you want to grow you have to do this and do that, do everything, do as much as you can. It is true that doing a lot of activities is cool and will make you grow but in the end you will gas out, you will be so much exhausted and you will be overwhelmed by large number of tasks ahead of you.
Reduce your number of activities especially the useless activities. That is the key to evolution. You should only do the things that will make you grow, stronger and closer to the life that you really want.
If your life is full of bullshits then your progress will not be as quick as you want. If you drink everyday, reduce it. Reduce it to at least twice a week or even once a week. You will be amazed at how big is the change in your life will be. Watching television - this shit is one of the most influential inventions, it takes away the consciousness of everyone, it is the main source of procrastination. I admit I also watch TV, it is really relaxing but if you got overdosed by television then your tummy will grow bigger and your body will become weaker. You will become very unproductive.
Going out with friends a lot, social media, travelling a lot, reading books without sense. It is true that we must have fun but not to the point that all we wanna do is have fun. Recreation is overrated. Sometimes you are just using recreation as an excuse to not do the things that you must. It is ok to do things that are fun to you such as engaging in social media, taking selfies, it is normal but if you really wanted to evolve you must cut the number of hours spending on craps like those. I am not saying that totally remove it in your life, my point is don't make it a major thing in your life.
And when you get rid of those useless things in your life or at least lessen the hours spending on them, that is the start of your evolution. You will evolve even if you don't know what to do. Your passion will reveal itself naturally because you have more time for yourself and not with those craps that takes away your passion. Those number of hours that you waste for doing useless things will be replaced by new habits that will make your life better. I guarantee you, you will only grow if you eliminate the things that you must not do.
Oct 18, 2015
YOU CAN ONLY REVERSE THE COURSE IF YOU KEEP ON TAKING THE COURSE
You wish to change your life? you wish that you can give your family and your love ones a better future? But the problem is at the same time you also wanted to pursue your passion. But the problem about pursuing your passion is the money is not showing up easily.
What people mostly do when money is not showing up is they change route, they give up on their dreams and they do the things that will give them money. Is this the right thing to do? Practically it is but when you are thinking about the long run, deciding to leave your passion is the worse thing to do.
IF YOU WANT TO REVERSE THE COURSE YOU SHOULD KEEP ON TAKING THE COURSE. What I mean by this is if you want to change your life you should keep on doing the same thing. You should not change your life if your life is all about your passion.
For example you are in a dance business, you are a very passionate dancer and it is the only thing that you wanted to do everyday. You are a dance maniac and dancing is the number one source of your happiness. But let's face the truth there is no easy money in dancing especially if you're just a beginner. There will be times where you have no show and sources of income is not entering your life.
But that's just the part of it, it is one of the consequences when people follow their passion. Money will become a huge factor and sometimes it will be the deciding factor if you will continue pursuing your passion or not.
I said before that if you want to reverse the course you should keep on taking the course, this is true. You should continue honing your craft, be the best so money will come to you effortlessly. Those people who are the best in their chosen field becomes successful not only in their career but also in attracting money into their lives.
Do you know Sofia Boutella?, she is a great dancer. What she does is she just do what she loves to do, she keeps on dancing everyday, improving everyday then one day she was labelled as the hip hop queen. She was even chosen as an endorser of Nike. She keeps on taking the course that is why she reversed the course. She changed her life. The universe notices her talent, hardwork and sacrifice and rewarded her big.
The lesson in life is you can only change your situation by embracing your situation, keep doing what you love to do, don't stop even if the money is not coming in yet. Money will come if you become an expert, if you become the best in your field. Of course nobody will give an attention to a novice, nobody will give his time to a beginner so your only chance is to become great and great things will come to you. Your life will change if you don't change.
Oct 16, 2015
FAILURES PRETENDS THAT THEY ARE STILL BABIES
This one is harsh but it is the reality, to those who are sensitive, to those who are guilty stop reading this because this article will stabbed your heart and make you realize how weak you are.
FAILURES PRETENDS THAT THEY ARE STILL BABIES. They want to get pampered, they want the things that they want handed to them so they won't work. If they want money they will ask. If there is something they needed to do even if they can do it they will still ask for help. Basically they want things to become very easy that is why when hardships strike them all they can do is cry, cry like a baby who is asking for his milk.
They can't commit to something because babies never commit, they just want to stay cute forever so people will like them. They want cute things, they want cute environment that is full of candies and fantasies that will make their lives very easy and lazy.
Another thing is failures fights like babies too, when there is a big task ahead of them they just use their 20 percent of strength and then they will quit. They will blame everything, they will blame the situation, they will blame people that is why they cannot finish a big task.
They will pretend that something is hurting. They will pretend that their stomach aches, that they have a toothache, they will pretend that they have a foot injury even though they only have a broken nail. They will pretend that they have a high fever but the reality is they only have a minor headache.
These failure babies are really soft and will fold on the first time that adversity strikes. They felt like a small challenge is like a choker that stops them from breathing. They always believe that the world owes them shit and they needed to be treated special by everyone. They feel like they have a crown and they needed to be respected because they are too special.
They are weak, they complain a lot, they have no commitment and they are so dependent to their mamas and papas or even their friends if they have true ones.
So this is one of the main reason why you are failing, you still feel like you're a baby. You wanted someone to stir your milk, you want somebody to spoon feed you. You can't do it by yourself. My advice my friend is make a stand, man up or woman up. Do what you can do with the best of your abilities. Stop whining when things go wrong, you're not a baby anymore, you're a grown up person and has a lot of promising things to offer.
Act like a grown up individual, take responsibilities for your actions. Stop blaming someone or pulling somebody down. It is you and only you whose responsible for your shortcomings. If your situation is not as good as you expected change it, just do something instead of passing your responsibilities to others. Right now just do what you can do and do more, push more, never complain until you give everything you've got and you come to the point where you have nothing left to give.
Oct 9, 2015
NOT EASY TO IMPRESS
Ordinary people are very easy to impress, they believe in humors, hypes, false expectations, they follow the crowd and they are easily mesmerized by celebrities, politicians or any other popular human being. If you are one of these people it only means you have no confidence in yourself. You don't love your life so much and you are not thinking big.
If you know your value you will not be very easy to impress, you know that every human beings are created equal and anyone can thrive no matter what his looks, circumstance or situation in life is.
If you work hard and you want to improve everyday, if you are pursuing a passion then you will not be impressed easily by another human being. Especially if you know you work harder than that person, if you are more passionate than that person, you will not give him respect so much. It is not that you are disrespectful but rather you are just giving much respect for yourself than others.
If you endure more sacrifice even if someone is richer than you then you will probably not get impressed with him.
If your goal is to improve everyday, follow your passion and pursuit your dreams then you will not easily get impressed by someone who hasn't proved anything yet. You will not be attracted by people who are just trying to become cute to become successful, You feel bigger to those who are unpassionate individuals and are just trying to get lucky to become successful.
Common people with no common goals or strong passion doesn't give themselves a lot of attention instead they give more attention to others that is why they are not expecting big from themselves. They found their joy from others. They have no control in their emotions and they have weak emotional immune system. When their idol is being bashed they become angry, when their idol is not thriving they become sad. They didn't even know how to live in the right way anymore and celebrate their individuality.
Are you one of these people who are very easy to impress? if yes then you should double check your life. Check what you are doing, are you really happy by just watching other people rise on the top and you are still on the bottom? Are you satisfied with just being a spectator and not an actor? Common you're better than that, express yourself and impress yourself.
Sep 26, 2015
MOTIVATION IS CHEATING YOU!!! (THE SECRET BEHIND ITS POWER)
You feel motivated? really?, what motivational video did pumped you up? what motivational quote did change your life completely? Did you take an action immediately after attending a seminar of a well known motivator? Did you jump into your task right away after hearing an inspirational story?
I bet you did not. I am very sure that after you hear or watch some breath taking motivation you are still completely stuck. I know this because it also happened to me. How many of you are awakened by motivation? Did you really believe that if you watch a one hour motivational video you will have an amazing comeback?
The title of this article is MOTIVATION IS CHEATING YOU but it is just a metaphor. It may be cheating you or you maybe cheating yourself.
I will tell you the real power of motivation. Motivation for many of us thinks that its purpose is to make us start, some of us thinks that it gives us power to begin and succeed. Motivation is not created to get you started rather to keep you going. Motivation doesn't appear in the beginning of goals, it appears in the middle of your journey, while you are struggling.
Its main purpose is to give you strength if you want to give up, it reminds you how good you are, how bad do you want it and how possible is your dream to happen. Motivation gives you hope and it only appears during hard times, during adversity. It doesn't appear when you are feeling good, it doesn't appear when everything is fine.
So if you want to start something stop motivating yourself, just do it. Motivation will not appear if you are not doing anything. Motivation appears in the middle of an action.
You should only motivate yourself when you're in the middle of something, if you feel like you are losing power to go on. Stop watching motivational videos or reading motivational quotes if you haven't started something yet, it will only make you stuck and will make you addicted to a lot of motivational stuffs but will not make you move. Motivation is really powerful if use in the right timing and the right way.
Did you ever see someone who sets his goal and very pumped up in the beginning but will fade right away after experiencing a little difficulty? very funny isn't it. It is because he didn't use motivation in the right time. What he does is he builds hype for himself, he spread his plan to the world and then forgot to stay motivated.
When you feel so tired, when you want to give up that is the time to use motivation. Remember all the quotes that you learned when you were young, remember what your father or your mentor thought you. Go back to the past when you achieved something great and remember the feeling of overcoming the obstacles. Every person has did something great in his life even if he is not that successful so just go back to the time where you are really proud of achieving something, the time where you put a lot of effort and sacrifice just to achieve something.
It is just a matter of conditioning your mind and reviving the fire that is sleeping within.
Sep 24, 2015
IF ALL PEOPLE WERE NICE YOU WILL LOSE MOTIVATION
Don't wish for a perfect world because it will never exist. Don't expect that all people will be nice to you even if you are the nicest person in the world. The reality is there are lots of assholes out there that will try to hurt you and demotivate you if you allow them to.
Just accept that the world is composed of people with different personalities and never expect something good in return if you do something good for the human race. Life is unfair but you will get what you deserve. Accept that not all people are nice and some will piss you off, some are very annoying and some are not healthy for your life, just accept it.
Anyway there is still positive side on people not being nice to you if you will just set your mind in the proper way.
If all people were nice you will lose motivation, this is 100 percent true. You will lose the desire to work hard because nothing will challenge you. No one will feed your fire.
If you are living in a place where there is no traffic, where there is no annoying neighbor and people are giving you food everyday do you think you will work harder to find another place? DEFINITELY NOT. What if the place where you live sucks, all the neighbors were impolite, loud and making a lot of gossips in you what will be your initial reaction? Of course you will find a better place and in order for you to do that you will work harder than before.
What if your coach is very nice to you and not pushing you to your limits? do you think you will become a better athlete? what if he is just watching you and not criticizing your mistakes or bad habits, how will you grow?
What if your parents were very nice to you too and were giving you all your needs, even the things that you don't necessarily need, do you think you will become responsible? Do you think you will have the motivation to study hard and discipline yourself if you are being spoiled by your parents? sometimes your parents needs to implement unbreakable rules to raise you even better.
In a competitive world of sports the one who talks bad serves as a great motivator. Their competitors work harder to beat them and prove them wrong.
So don't feel bad if people were not being nice to you, they can serve as a strong motivation. They can bring out the best in you if you will set your mind in the proper way.
Just accept that the world is composed of people with different personalities and never expect something good in return if you do something good for the human race. Life is unfair but you will get what you deserve. Accept that not all people are nice and some will piss you off, some are very annoying and some are not healthy for your life, just accept it.
Anyway there is still positive side on people not being nice to you if you will just set your mind in the proper way.
If all people were nice you will lose motivation, this is 100 percent true. You will lose the desire to work hard because nothing will challenge you. No one will feed your fire.
If you are living in a place where there is no traffic, where there is no annoying neighbor and people are giving you food everyday do you think you will work harder to find another place? DEFINITELY NOT. What if the place where you live sucks, all the neighbors were impolite, loud and making a lot of gossips in you what will be your initial reaction? Of course you will find a better place and in order for you to do that you will work harder than before.
What if your coach is very nice to you and not pushing you to your limits? do you think you will become a better athlete? what if he is just watching you and not criticizing your mistakes or bad habits, how will you grow?
What if your parents were very nice to you too and were giving you all your needs, even the things that you don't necessarily need, do you think you will become responsible? Do you think you will have the motivation to study hard and discipline yourself if you are being spoiled by your parents? sometimes your parents needs to implement unbreakable rules to raise you even better.
In a competitive world of sports the one who talks bad serves as a great motivator. Their competitors work harder to beat them and prove them wrong.
So don't feel bad if people were not being nice to you, they can serve as a strong motivation. They can bring out the best in you if you will set your mind in the proper way.
Sep 23, 2015
THE RIGHT ORDER OF FEELINGS FOR A BETTER LIFE
Feel bad first then feel good at the end, this is the right order of feelings. What do I mean by this? A lot of you folks want to feel good right away and doesn't want to feel bad forever so when you feel bad it is very hard for you to get away with that feeling.
If you have an exam tomorrow, you wanted to feel good even if there is a need to face the pressure, so what you do is you watch TV the whole night before the exam. What happens next is when you are about to answer the first question of the exam you feel bad, you feel bad because you don't know the answer, what's worse is the bad feeling amplifies as the exam goes on. It is because you are already thinking about failing, you are already thinking about your parents or your guardian spanking your lazy ass.
If you want instant gratification you will get instant destruction.
You want to become an athlete but you don't want to endure the hardships of the training. What you do is you just party around, act like a clown and when the tryout for a team comes you are out of shape. You can't feel good first and then feel good again. Life is a roller coaster of emotions, accept the fact that you cannot feel good forever. It is normal to experience a little bit of pain, a little bit of struggle and some unfair treatments from different types of people.
Another example is you have a girlfriend, you are so in love with here. You want to feel the emotion of making love with her so what you do is you hump her all day long even though you don't have a job. What happens next? she became pregnant and you don't know what to do, you don't have the money to support your future child. This is what happens when people wants to experience instant pleasure and is not aware of the next consequence. If you just abstain until you have a good job then your future will not be in big trouble.
I am not saying that you should feel bad first then joy comes after. Anyone can feel bad, you can feel bad about having less money, you can feel bad about traffic, you can feel bad about your neighborhood etc. but what comes after that? NOTHING. What I am trying to point out is feeling bad about sacrifice. It is about feeling bad the right way.
It feels bad to go to a commitment without sleep but what happens if you didn't go and just enjoy sleeping first? You will feel bad later because your business will go down. It feels bad to exercise everyday, it is more fun to eat fatty and shitty foods but what happens in the long run? your blood pressure is higher than the Mt. Everest, one more slice of pork and your heart will explode. Was it fun?
Accept the reality that life is not all about pleasures, if it is all about pleasures and living like a king then we are all participants for the BIG LOSER. There will be no great athletes or successful individuals, there will be no great achievements. Our world will be occupied by lazy people and there will be no progress at all.
It is ok if you are feeling bad now because of preparing for something, just stay with that feeling and eventually you will feel a lot better in the long run.
Sep 21, 2015
THERE IS A REGRET IN ACCEPTANCE
Well I heard this sentences before: "accept what you can't control", "accept your situation", "accept what you have in life", "acceptance will give you peace". Well I don't what they really mean. For me acceptance means laziness, acceptance means cowardice, acceptance means letting others control you.
If you really know the meaning of life. If you really know that you only have one life are you going to accept what you have if you think you deserve better?
Are you going to accept that you are just a bench player? are you going to accept that you only earn $500 a month? are you going to accept that people are not treating you right? are you going to accept that you have a very small house? are you going to accept the bullying from other people? are you going to accept that some people controls you? are you going to accept that you are not a risk taker? If you accept these kind of things you will regret that you didn't do something to change your situation. You will regret it in the end.
The reason why you are accepting your situation for now is because you don't want to get hurt, you always play it safe, you don't want to get criticized, you are afraid to fight.
If someone pretending to be a genius has told you that you cannot do something great are you going to accept it? Most people accepts it because fear has taken control their mind. Their fear of failure is bigger than their desire to succeed. They are afraid of people laughing at them if they fail. That is why they accept other people's opinions even if their heart is urging them to at least try.
In the end you will regret all the things that you didn't do, you will regret that you just accept your life as it is and didn't do something to make it better. You will regret all the times that you just endure the sufferings that you know in yourself you can do something about it.
One of the biggest lessons in life is appreciate what you have for the moment but don't be afraid to change it. Don't accept that you don't have the power to change your life.
Sep 20, 2015
YOUR MONIKER WILL CHANGE IF YOU SUCCEED
Are you being called with a nickname that you really don't want? for example weak, chicken, soft or is your name being associated with adjectives that you didn't like? for example Coward Howard, Lazy Daisy, Bitch Mitch, Slave Dave, Slow Joe etc.
Some people are really mean and they will give you a moniker that you didn't like just to piss you off. Even if you are not doing something to them they will just call you some words that will really destroy your confidence. This is difficult because some people will follow the one who started it and they will do this to you everyday, they will have fun calling you an ugly name and they will not even use your real name anymore.
Don't worry if you succeed in life especially if you succeed big time they will lose power in calling you such names that you didn't like. They will see you as something special and they will get intimidated by the success that you achieve. They will even treat you nicer and with such respect because they know you are bigger than them.
They call you such names or ugly descriptions before but things will change. The moniker that they gave to you before will be erased and replace by a new, good smelling and strong moniker. Loser will turn to Winner, Lazy will turn to Nasty, Bitch will turn to Rich, Ugly will turn to Beauty, Lame will turn to Big Game etc.
First of all if you don't want to be called by ugly names you should stop it from the beginning, you should tell the person who is doing it to you that you don't like being called by such names, if he didn't stop just ignore him but most of all let him feel that you feel bad everytime he is doing it to you. Don't respond to him if he didn't call your name the right way. But if he didn't stop all you can do is become successful, it may be a long process but for sure it will work. You will gain respect not by being fearful but for being successful.
Sep 18, 2015
INVISIBLE INVINCIBLE SHIELD
This is a great weapon, if you have this you can thrive so easily. You cannot be affected by what people say, you will never break down mentally and you have an edge to anyone. This is called INVISIBLE INVINCIBLE SHIELD. It is invisible because it cannot be seen, it is invincible because it cannot be broken. If you have this weapon nothing is impossible to you and you can accomplish almost anything.
So what is this shield? it's a MINDSET. As simple as it is. If you have the mindset of being ok with critics then you won't get hurt emotionally. If you have the mindset that anything is achievable and any setback is just part of the progress then you'll be OK.
This may sounds crazy but it is true. We experience pain because we thought of it as painful but the reality is if we will divert our focus from pain to better things then our lives will become easier.
So how can we develop this shield? Some people have it already, these people are born with it so they are a little bit lucky. They are the people who just don't care and they have a very positive outlook in life. They just take life as it is, we often see them complaining about life. Well the good news is if you don't have this kind of shield yet you can have it too. Just practice everyday, guard your emotions. If something or someone is causing you pain just ignore it. Imagine that you have a shield that do the protection from pain. This is not escaping from reality this is looking reality in a different way.
If someone backstabbed you and is spreading false news about your personality, don't confront him, don't even give him an attention, just pretend that he doesn't exist. If there is an obstacle that is hitting you while you are pursuing your goal just imagine that you have a shield and you can't be stopped no matter how hard the obstacle hits you. They key here is the more you ignore something that gives you negative emotion, the stronger your shield will be.
This may sounds crazy but it is true. We experience pain because we thought of it as painful but the reality is if we will divert our focus from pain to better things then our lives will become easier.
So how can we develop this shield? Some people have it already, these people are born with it so they are a little bit lucky. They are the people who just don't care and they have a very positive outlook in life. They just take life as it is, we often see them complaining about life. Well the good news is if you don't have this kind of shield yet you can have it too. Just practice everyday, guard your emotions. If something or someone is causing you pain just ignore it. Imagine that you have a shield that do the protection from pain. This is not escaping from reality this is looking reality in a different way.
If someone backstabbed you and is spreading false news about your personality, don't confront him, don't even give him an attention, just pretend that he doesn't exist. If there is an obstacle that is hitting you while you are pursuing your goal just imagine that you have a shield and you can't be stopped no matter how hard the obstacle hits you. They key here is the more you ignore something that gives you negative emotion, the stronger your shield will be.
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