Mar 14, 2018

HAPPINESS AND SADNESS

Life is all about happiness and sadness, nobody told you that you can become happier everyday. Nobody told you that once you become successful then you will never become sad anymore. If success is the basis of happiness then why are there some successful people who are sadder than poor people?

Happiness and sadness are partners, life is not normal if it is all about happiness, it is not normal either if it is only about sadness. So don't ever feel bad if you're sad now, your emotions will change later. Just live and carry on, you will become happy in just a matter of time.

And don't get too cocky if you're happy now, maybe later you will become sad again. Just a commercial on the television can make you sad, just a small conversation that reminds you of something sad in the past will make you sad. You can become sad anytime even if you don't have a problem. Sadness and happiness are random, they will visit you anytime they want to.

Be ready for any kind of emotion, at any given moment you may feel sadness or happiness. You're just a human being, that's the beauty of being a human... you will feel any kind of emotion. Feeling is a blessing, you move because you feel, you stop because you feel. Whatever feelings you have right now... remember that it's just a feeling, it will never kill you.

Learn to process the emotions, learn how to deal with it... that will make your life very easy.

If you want to become happy everyday then lower your standards, laugh at something that is corny, laugh at something that is not laughable at all. Appreciate your child giving you a candy, appreciate your dog licking you, appreciate that your mom is scolding you because she cares for you. Don't be too picky when it comes to happiness, happiness is easy to achieve. People give it a deep meaning that's why they can't become happy at all, a lot of people think that they will only become happy once they have that salary increase, big house, car, promotion or anything that is hard to achieve.

Don't get me wrong... those things will also make you happy but the point here is you can become happy at any given moment. Just remember a happy memory from the past and you will become happy. Happiness is not that hard to achieve if you will not complicate your life.

You can erase sadness anytime you want, just look around you and appreciate what you still have, you still have a lot, there is still someone who loves you. And even if you think that nobody loves you anymore... be happy because you are still alive, you can still do a lot of things, you still have a chance to love and be loved.

WHY ARE EMOTIONS CHANGING?

 Because you're human, because it is life, life is all about a roller coaster of emotions, we are here to feel everything. We are here to feel sadness, depression, happiness, excitement, guilt, nervousness, joy, bliss, lust etc. That is what makes life even exciting... you don't know what type of emotion that will come next. Don't be surprised if it's your birthday and you're sad. You're sad because your father didn't greet you, you're sad because your mother didn't give you a gift. It's really up to you how are you going to create your own state. You can become happy even if your dog is dead, it is really up to you, it's possible to create the emotions that you want or need. Ever wonder why there are some people who are so relaxed under pressure? it's simply because they know that the key to thrive under pressure is to stay relaxed and calm, they want to succeed so they manage to relax even if the situation is really scary.

YOU ARE NEVER IMMUNE TO SADNESS.

You will feel it, even if you think that your life is perfect... you will still feel it. Look at those people who have a life style of always partying... one day you will see them really sad and depressed. Why is that? they have a lot of money, they have a lot of friends but one day you will see them crying and going crazy. It's because they're looking for happiness too much, they think that life is all about parties, food, romance, money and craziness. They don't know that in order to have a balance life... you still need to feel some pain. And once they feel the pain... they are panicking, they want to escape that kind of emotion right away, that leads them to taking illegal drugs or alcohol abuse, that makes them depressed. So never feel surprised if yesterday you're so happy and your heart is singing but today you're already sad, it's normal, life is just like that so get use to it.

NEVER ATTACHED YOUR HAPPINESS INTO SOMETHING.

You don't need to become popular to become happy, you don't need to be rich to become happy... once those things are not in your hands anymore... what will you do? how are you going to feel? Never think that your happiness relies into something, you and your life alone can make you happy. Your journey can make you happy, all the challenges in life... once you overcome all of them then you will become happy. The simplest things and untouchable things in life can make you happy. Don't be like others who needs a lot of things to become happy, once they can't have it... they are so depressed.

LEARN TO EMBRACE ANY KIND OF FEELING.

If you're happy then cherish it, if you're sad so be it, if you're scared... embrace it, embrace any kind of feeling and be comfortable during times f discomfort. Just remember that any storm will soon pass away. Don't panic if you are depressed, just feel it but don't make dramas, always keep in mind that your emotion will change, a pain will not stay in your life forever. It may stay for days or weeks but just hang on and you will become happy again. A lot of people commits suicide because they think that their depression is permanent, if they only knew that their emotion will change later then they will just wait for it to change, they will just wait for happiness and hope to visit their system again.

WHAT ARE THE SIMPLE THINGS THAT CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY?

1. A simple chat with an old friend.
2. A favorite dish cooked by your wife or mom.
3. A simple video clip from the past
4. A simple line of your favorite comedian
5. Cleaning your room
6. A joke or meme
7. Listening to your favorite song (mine is a christmas song, it really makes me feel good)
8. Just feeling the air and sunlight outside.
9. Reading your favorite book.
10. Learning a new skill
11. Helping people who deserve some help

There are lot of things that can make you happy, all you have to do is look for it, do something that will entertain you. Remember that sadness is all in the mind, if you can occupy your brain with things that will divert your emotions then it will be easier for you to become happy. Happiness is easy to achieve, if you're sad now... just wait and never do anything negative, you will become happy in a while.

SO WHAT IF YOU'RE SAD?

Is it the end of the world if you're sad? are you going to die if you're sad? be thankful if you're sad because it is a sign that you're still sane. People who can't become sad anymore are crazy people, they are the ones in the mental hospital. Sadness is just a sign that you're just a human being. It's a sign that you will become happy later, remember that feelings will change... you will become happy later just endure what you're feeling now and be patient with yourself.

Don't get jealous if others are happy and you're sad, it will only add sadness. Their life is different form your life, they are happy now but they may feel sad later or tomorrow. Emotions are changing, there is no permanent feeling.

MAKE OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY.

If you can't make yourself happy then just make other people happy. Make your parents happy, make your siblings happy, make your true friends happy. Once you see your love ones happy then there is a big chance that you will become happy too, happiness is contagious, if you associate yourself with people who are happy then you will become happy too. DO simple things for them, give them something that will make them happy or smile a bit. List all the people that are very close to you and try to make them happy by giving them some time.

IGNORE SADNESS.

Make yourself busy, this this is the best way to forget sadness, focus your time into something that is entertaining. Pursue an impossible goal, waste your time improving yourself and making yourself better than yesterday. You can forget sadness if your time is fast, if your enjoying in something. Sometimes you have to fool yourself and pretend that you're enjoying in something just to make your time fly away. If you're too busy everyday then you will easily forget the problems that you have, you will even have fun because you can do a lot of things, pain will give you extra boost, it will give you extra energy to do more things.

SWEAT AND SLEEP.

Run and make yourself tired, exercise. Studies reveal that exercise can change your mood, it can shift a depression into happiness. So when you wake up in the morning... run for 2 hours or more then sleep. You will forget your problem with that kind of lifestyle, you will see yourself getting back in shape and getting stronger. Endurance will make you mentally tough so just keep pushing yourself and your emotion will change. Sometimes sleep is the only thing you need to rest your tired mind from entertaining a lot of sad thoughts.

STOP THINKING.

If you can't really forget your problems then stop thinking, just do something productive and stop thinking. It's all in the mind, just take actions and you will forget that you have a problem. The more you think the more your problem will become bigger, if you're not thinking then your problem will go away by itself. Thinking too much will make your mind crazy, replace thinking with acting and your life will change. You should know if your thoughts are against you, you should know if your thoughts are making you weak... stop thinking now. If you can't stop your thoughts running then just let it be, never fight it but don't put emotions on it. Just let the thoughts come and go but don't make dramas, you can separate thoughts and emotions, you can feel neutral even if sad thoughts keep coming.

YOUR HAPPINESS IS THE ROOT OF YOUR SADNESS

This is sad but true, your happiness is the root of your sadness, if your partner left.. you will become sad. If your business go down... you will become sad, if your dog died, you will become sad. Once the things that are making you happy is gone.. you will become very sad. The key here is to detach your happiness from everything. Never think that you can only become happy once everything is playing out well according to your wishes. It's possible that you can become happy without people around you, it's possible that you can become very happy without the things that are making you happy before. It's all in the mind, you can entertain yourself, the best thing to do is pick a goal and die for it... in that case your life will have a direction again. If you have something to live for, if you're waking up for something everyday then you will become happy again.

Always try to be happy no matter what, just be appreciative because you're still alive and you can experience life. Not all people live long in this world. If you will dwell so much on sadness and problems then you're just wasting your life.

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