September 23, 2015
THE RIGHT ORDER OF FEELINGS FOR A BETTER LIFE
Feel bad first then feel good at the end, this is the right order of feelings. What do I mean by this? A lot of you folks want to feel good right away and doesn't want to feel bad forever so when you feel bad it is very hard for you to get away with that feeling.
If you have an exam tomorrow, you wanted to feel good even if there is a need to face the pressure, so what you do is you watch TV the whole night before the exam. What happens next is when you are about to answer the first question of the exam you feel bad, you feel bad because you don't know the answer, what's worse is the bad feeling amplifies as the exam goes on. It is because you are already thinking about failing, you are already thinking about your parents or your guardian spanking your lazy ass.
If you want instant gratification you will get instant destruction.
You want to become an athlete but you don't want to endure the hardships of the training. What you do is you just party around, act like a clown and when the tryout for a team comes you are out of shape. You can't feel good first and then feel good again. Life is a roller coaster of emotions, accept the fact that you cannot feel good forever. It is normal to experience a little bit of pain, a little bit of struggle and some unfair treatments from different types of people.
Another example is you have a girlfriend, you are so in love with here. You want to feel the emotion of making love with her so what you do is you hump her all day long even though you don't have a job. What happens next? she became pregnant and you don't know what to do, you don't have the money to support your future child. This is what happens when people wants to experience instant pleasure and is not aware of the next consequence. If you just abstain until you have a good job then your future will not be in big trouble.
I am not saying that you should feel bad first then joy comes after. Anyone can feel bad, you can feel bad about having less money, you can feel bad about traffic, you can feel bad about your neighborhood etc. but what comes after that? NOTHING. What I am trying to point out is feeling bad about sacrifice. It is about feeling bad the right way.
It feels bad to go to a commitment without sleep but what happens if you didn't go and just enjoy sleeping first? You will feel bad later because your business will go down. It feels bad to exercise everyday, it is more fun to eat fatty and shitty foods but what happens in the long run? your blood pressure is higher than the Mt. Everest, one more slice of pork and your heart will explode. Was it fun?
Accept the reality that life is not all about pleasures, if it is all about pleasures and living like a king then we are all participants for the BIG LOSER. There will be no great athletes or successful individuals, there will be no great achievements. Our world will be occupied by lazy people and there will be no progress at all.
It is ok if you are feeling bad now because of preparing for something, just stay with that feeling and eventually you will feel a lot better in the long run.